montessori-school-of-englewood

When We're the Ones Who Lost It: A Guide for Adults

Mon, 13 Apr 2026 11:00:16 GMT

We often think about how to handle our children's outbursts: when they talk back, get aggressive, or are hurtful. But we don't often give ourselves enough space to process what to do when we, as adults, are the ones to snap.

And we've all had those parenting moments: when we lose our cool, yell, or feel an intense level of frustration. The worst part is when these moments happen right before we drop our child off at school, so we start our day feeling rotten, with no way to make amends.

Sometimes these moments come from (or lead to) a pendulum swing in our parenting approach. Perhaps we've tried to be loving and model gentle parenting principles, but in the process, set weak boundaries or let our child dictate the terms. Then we feel like we need to make up for being too lenient by swinging to the opposite extreme, perhaps shouting, threatening, or imposing harsh consequences. The result? Our children are confused by the inconsistency, and we feel guilty, which sends us swinging back to permissiveness again.

So what do we do?

Be gentle on yourself first.

Even when an outburst feels immense, our worst parenting moments do not define us or our relationship with our children. Parent Coach Nicole Schwarz offers this: "That was a moment in time. Learn what you can from the experience, make changes as needed, and move forward. Don't let one mistake overshadow the positive moments and parenting wins, even if they seem small."

Model making amends.

When we lose our patience, the path forward can be an intentional opportunity to show our children what accountability looks like. Jane Nelson's "Three R's of Recovery" from Positive Discipline offers a simple framework. First, recognize: once you've cooled off, acknowledge your mistake without weaving in blame — something like, "I feel really bad about how I spoke to you. You didn't deserve that." Then, reconcile: offer a genuine, heartfelt apology. And finally, resolve: work together to find a solution, inviting your child into the conversation as a true collaborator. When we model this kind of accountability, our children learn that mistakes are opportunities for growth and connection.

Think about lagging skills.

Dr. Ross Greene, clinical psychologist and author of Raising Human Beings, offers another perspective. He reminds us that children behave in challenging ways because they lack the skills needed, and given the choice, every child would rather do well. This reframe can help us shift from reacting to the behavior to getting curious about what's underneath it.

Get curious instead of reactive.

One way to get curious is to stay calm in challenging moments, simply observe without judgment, and ask (with genuine curiosity and empathy), "What's going on?" Then comes the harder part: actually listening. This is when we tend to want to jump in with advice or steer toward a solution, but it’s much more powerful to genuinely hear what our children have to say. This Empathy Step, as Dr. Greene calls it, is often where the real shift happens because a child who feels truly heard is far more open to collaborating on a solution that works for everyone. Our job isn't always to fix things. Sometimes it's simply to slow down, listen, and trust that our children, when given the space and support, are more capable problem-solvers than we give them credit for.

Consider what unmet needs might be at play.

Psychiatrist Rudolf Dreikurs believed that all behavior has a purpose, and that beneath most challenging moments is an unmet need trying to make itself known. He identified four common "mistaken goals" behind challenging behavior: a bid for attention, a need for power, a hurt looking for acknowledgment, or a quiet kind of giving up. Each carries a coded message worth decoding. A Positive Discipline Mistaken Goal Chart can help, offering a framework to match our emotional reactions to what our children might really need.

Reflect on our own patterns.

Once we've extended some grace to ourselves and reconnected with our children, it's worth taking time to reflect on the bigger picture. Researchers have identified four general parenting approaches: the authoritative parent, who balances warmth with clear, consistent boundaries; the authoritarian parent, who leads with strict rules and expects obedience without much explanation; the permissive parent, who is deeply loving but struggles to hold limits; and the uninvolved parent, who is largely disconnected from their child's emotional and practical needs.

Most of us won't see ourselves perfectly in just one category. And most of us will recognize, with some honesty, that stress, exhaustion, or our own upbringing can pull us toward patterns we don't always feel proud of. The goal is awareness. When we can pause and notice the style we're operating from in a given moment, we have the opportunity to choose something more intentional, and that keeps connection and respect at the center, even on the hard days.

Parenting is a tough job! We are here for support and would be delighted to have you schedule a visit here in West Englewood, Chicago, IL.

Unifying Words and Their Meanings: The Quiet Genius of Montessori Vocabulary Lessons

Mon, 06 Apr 2026 11:01:07 GMT

Have you ever watched a Montessori teacher give a lesson and thought, "That seemed...very short!”? If so, you may have witnessed a three-period lesson. What looks almost effortlessly simple is actually one of the most carefully designed teaching techniques.

The three-period lesson is the primary way we introduce new vocabulary to young children. We use it constantly for phonetic sounds, geometric shapes, textures, quantities, names of parts of a flower, names of continents, and so much more. Virtually every time children learn a precise new word for something they're experiencing with their senses, we are using a version of this lesson.

Why Vocabulary Needs Its Own Method

Young children are in what Dr. Montessori called a sensitive period for language. This is a window of time when children’s minds are especially primed to absorb new words and refine their understanding of them. It’s important to keep in mind, though, that absorbing a word isn't the same as truly knowing it. Children might hear the word "rough" many times without ever firmly connecting that sound to what their fingers actually feel on a piece of sandpaper.

The three-period lesson closes the understanding gap. It's built on an insight Dr. Maria Montessori borrowed from educator Édouard Séguin. Learning a word happens in stages: first association, then recognition, then recall. Moving through those stages deliberately, with no extra words or distractions to clutter the lesson, gives children's minds the clearest possible path to making a lasting connection.

“Both object and name should strike the child's understanding at the same time — but only the name itself, and not some other word, should be pronounced.”

— Dr. Maria Montessori, The Discovery of the Child

The Simplicity of the Three Stages

Here's how the three-period lesson unfolds. We’ll use a classic example of teaching the words "rough" and "smooth" with our sensorial textured boards.

1. ASSOCIATION — "This is..."

The adult presents the object and names it clearly, with no extra words. The child repeats the word while experiencing the sensation. "This is rough." The child runs their fingers across the surface and repeats: "Rough."

2. RECOGNITION — "Show me..."

After a brief pause, the adult asks the child to identify the object by name. The child simply points or touches, and thus no verbal answer is needed. "Which is smooth? Which is rough?" The child points to each in turn.

3. RECALL — "What is this?"

The adult points to an object, and the child produces the name themselves, demonstrating that the word is now truly theirs. "What is this?" The child touches the surface and answers: "Rough."

The whole lesson might take only two or three minutes, and this brevity is part of what makes it work. A child's attention is fully focused on precise vocabulary acquisition.

What Happens When a Child Gets It Wrong

One of the most quietly radical aspects of the three-period lesson is what happens when a child gets it wrong. If a child points to the wrong texture in the second stage, the adult doesn't correct. We don’t say, "no, try again.” Instead, we just end the activity gently, with the understanding that we will try the lesson again another day.

Dr. Montessori was clear about this approach. A correction at that moment doesn't help a child learn the word. In fact, a correction only reinforces the feeling of having failed. So we simply close the lesson. The child carries no impression of having gotten something wrong, and when we revisit the lesson, the child comes to it fresh.

As Dr. Montessori wrote, an error in the second period is simply a sign that the child "was not at that instant ready for the psychic association.” Nothing is wrong with the child. The teaching hasn’t failed. It just wasn’t the right moment.

After the Lesson: When Words Come Alive

One of the loveliest things to observe after a successful three-period lesson is what children do next. A child who has just learned the words "rough" and "smooth" will often wander the classroom touching things: the edge of a wooden shelf, a piece of fabric, the surface of a stone, and quietly naming the texture to themselves. The words become tools for understanding the world, and they want to use them everywhere.

This spontaneous generalization is exactly what the lesson is designed to spark. The goal is never for children to recite vocabulary on command. Rather, we want to give them language that deepens and sharpens their experience of everything around them.

Trying It at Home

You don't need Montessori materials to use this approach. Any time you want to help a young child connect a precise word to something they're experiencing (the names of spices by smell, the names of fabrics by touch, the names of tools in the garden), the same three-step structure applies. Name it clearly. Ask them to show you. Ask them to tell you. Keep it brief, keep it joyful, and if they get stuck, simply set it aside and try again tomorrow.

The lesson works because it respects how young minds learn. New connections need space, simplicity, and the freedom to form without pressure.

To see this vocabulary tool in action, schedule a visit here in West Englewood, Chicago, IL.

Our Montessori Bookshelf: Water Connects Us

Mon, 30 Mar 2026 11:00:27 GMT

Rivers are so important to our human story. They are sources of nourishment, transportation, and connection. We see how children are naturally drawn to water, and rivers offer a powerful way to understand ecology, interdependence, and our place within the natural world.

With this in mind, we want to share some of our favorite books about water, rivers, and watersheds. Through story and illustration, children can trace the journey of a single drop of water, observe how land and water shape one another, and begin to understand how human choices affect the health of our planet.

We’ve grouped the following collection of river and water-focused books by developmental stage. Each title offers language, beauty, and meaningful context for deeper exploration. Whether you are reading with a toddler, a younger elementary child, or an emerging researcher, these books invite wonder, responsibility, and reverence for one of Earth’s most essential elements.

For the Youngest

Hey, Water!

By Antoinette Portis

This picture book takes us on a journey of how water is part of our lives in so many ways: from sprinkler spray to a teardrop trickling. The clean-lined illustrations transition between bird’s-eye views and close-up images. This is a great transition book for toddlers moving from pages with one word labeling a picture to a narrative that connects to daily experience.

A Place for Rain

By Michelle Schaub, Illustrated by Blanca Gómez

A lovely introduction to the concept of rain gardens, this picture book follows a simple story of children witnessing how rain runoff can be transformed from being problematic into something stunning and special for everyone. The sweet, slightly geometric illustrations highlight how even simple actions can have a big impact.

Water Is Water

By Miranda Paul, Illustrated by Jason Chin

Although a picture book about the changing states of water, the lyrical text and charming illustrations make this a delightful and fun-filled page-turner! It’s a great way to introduce young children to the water cycle and the importance of water in our lives.

Water Cycle: For Younger Elementary

Drop: An Adventure through the Water Cycle

By Emily Kate Moon

Bridging between comic style and traditional picture book, the story follows the character, Drop, as she travels through the water cycle. Delightful and engaging, this is a great book for younger elementary children and can serve as an easy-to-access resource for understanding the states of water.

A Drop Around the World

By Barbara Shaw McKinney, Illustrated by Michael S. Maydak

Written in rhyming verse, this story follows Drop from a cloud near Maine around the world and back to Cape Cod Bay. A map inside the cover shows the journey, and emoji-style images accompany the text, linking to more detailed descriptions of the amazing science at each step along Drop’s path.

Watersheds

If the Rivers Run Free

By Andrea Debunk, Illustrated by Nicole Wong

This captivating picture book takes readers through the human story of rivers’ importance in our lives, the mistakes we’ve made, and how we can make things right and help rivers run free again. The rhythm of the text is accentuated by moments of human realization, with bold statements that step out of the rhyming pattern and gently jar us into a sense of action. The illustrations take readers on a journey, too!

One Well: The Story of Water on Earth

By Rochelle Strauss, Illustrated by Rosemary Woods

Through its clear text and lush illustrations, One Well emphasizes the interconnectedness of water on our planet. It offers an array of interesting information that will appeal to children in elementary years, both through narrative text and short snippets overlaid on the images that fill each page. The fact that this picture book has an index is an indicator of how just how much its 32 pages contains!

River Story

By Meredith Hooper, Illustrated by Bee Willey

Rich in realistic content yet engaging and accessible, this lushly illustrated picture book takes readers on a journey from the source of the river to where it empties into the sea.

Watersheds: A Practical Handbook for Healthy Water

By Gregor Gilpin Beck, Illustrations by Clive Dobson

Best for older readers, this book offers helpful and non-technical information about watershed concepts and environmental concerns. This is an excellent resource for older elementary or younger adolescents engaged in ecology research. The illustrations are beautiful, too!

We’d love to hear what you think about these books! You can also download a printable list for the next time you visit your local bookstore or library!

Also, feel free to schedule a visit here in Chicago to learn more about how the story of water flows through children’s lives!

How Montessori Makes Long Division Make Sense

Mon, 23 Mar 2026 11:00:34 GMT

For many of us, we remember learning long division as a confusing sequence of steps to memorize and repeat (bring down, divide, multiply, subtract), often without a real sense of why it works. In Montessori classrooms, long division unfolds very differently.

Through the Racks and Tubes material, children get to experience what division actually is.

Two Ways to Divide: Sharing and Grouping

Before introducing the material, we first clarify an important idea: there are two different kinds of division problems in real life.

One asks, “If I share this equally, how much does each person get?” This is partitive division, or division by sharing.

The other asks, “If I make groups of a certain size, how many groups can I make?” This is measurement division, or division by grouping.

The Racks and Tubes material focuses on partitive division. Children physically share quantities equally and discover what one share receives. Materials like the Stamp Game emphasize division of measurement. Together, these approaches give children a complete understanding of division and help them choose the strategy that best fits a given problem.

What Are Racks and Tubes?

At first glance, the material is impressive and a little mysterious. Children are often drawn to the material, both for its beauty and its seeming complexity.

Racks hold test tubes filled with beads, carefully color-coded by place value: units, tens, hundreds, thousands, all the way up to millions. Matching cups hold the dividend (the number being divided). Boards and skittles represent the divisor (the number doing the dividing).

Every detail of the material reinforces place value. Each time children need to make an exchange, they trade in one bead of one category for ten of the next category (e.g. one hundred becomes ten 10’s). This process is visible and incredibly concrete.

This material takes intentional focus. It takes time. And it makes the steps of long division clear.

How Long Division Becomes Concrete

When children solve a division problem with Racks and Tubes, they follow a logical, embodied process:

They build the dividend using the racks and cups.
They represent the divisor with individual figures on boards.
They share beads one at a time, equally, to each part of the divisor.
They stop when sharing is no longer possible and then see what remains from that category.
They then bring down the next category of beads to continue the sharing process.

Each step answers a real question:

What does one unit get?
What happens when we run out?
What do we do with what’s left?

Instead of being told “bring down the next digit,” children literally bring down the next category of beads. When exchanges are needed, they perform them physically by trading beads. Remainders are not mysterious leftovers. They are beads still sitting in the cup.

Long division becomes a story children can follow.

From Material to Abstraction

One of the most beautiful aspects of this work is how naturally it leads into abstraction.

At first, children record only the quotient. Later, they begin recording intermediate remainders. Eventually, they discover that multiplying the quotient by the divisor tells them how much has been used at each step. This is the very heart of the traditional algorithm.

We don’t give abstract shortcuts. Instead we help children discover the pattern. This allows them to own the process.

By the time children are working abstractly on paper, the algorithm already makes sense. It matches what their hands have done again and again.

Why This Matters

The Racks and Tubes material does more than teach division. It teaches:

Deep place value understanding
Logical sequencing
Patience and precision
Trust in one’s own reasoning

Most importantly, it gives children confidence. Division is no longer something done to them. Instead, they can think through the process, step by step, with meaning and understanding.

In Montessori, math is not about getting the answer quickly. It’s about building an understanding of why the process and answer makes sense. And with Racks and Tubes, long division finally does!

Schedule a visit to our classrooms in West Englewood, Chicago, to see for yourself!

The Power of Presence: How Adults Shape Learning in the Early Years

Mon, 16 Mar 2026 11:00:16 GMT

In Montessori, we often focus on how the environment educates the child, but just as powerful as the physical space is the presence of the adult within it. For children in the first three years of life, adults are not simply caregivers or teachers. We are models of movement, language, emotional regulation, and relationships.

Being present with young children is about being present in a different way.

From Birth to About 14 to 16 Months

Infants are forming their earliest understanding of the world and of themselves. They observe everything! So the adult’s role requires a quiet strength and a deep level of self-awareness.

To be present with infants, we must love without expectation. Infants are not able to return affection in predictable ways, and presence cannot be dependent on feedback or validation. This work requires patience, generosity, and emotional steadiness.

Movement also matters deeply at this stage. Infants study how adults walk, reach, sit, and handle objects. Slow, intentional movement gives children something meaningful to absorb. When adults rush, babies feel it, even if they cannot name it.

Our language, too, must be precise and respectful. Clear enunciation and specific wording help infants build an accurate internal map of their world. Vague language like “that” or “over there” offers little clarity. Instead, we want to name what we see and what we are doing: “I am placing the cup on the table.”

Infants cry as their primary form of communication. Being present means responding without panic or frustration, and making thoughtful decisions even when there are multiple demands on our presence. Emotional regulation in adults becomes a sense of emotional safety for the child.

Dynamic Toddlers

As children grow into toddlers, our presence still needs to be very intentional, yet it also becomes more dynamic.

While toddlers are building independence, they still need deep connection. For adults, this means remaining loving without demanding affection or closeness. Even physical affection requires consent: “Would you like a hug?” or “Do you need some comfort?” Respecting children’s autonomy builds trust and self-awareness.

This stage is full of transitions, especially for children navigating new siblings, new communities, or a growing awareness of others. Sometimes toddlers want to be capable and independent. Then sometimes they want to be cared for like a baby again. Presence means honoring both without pushing the child prematurely in either direction.

Limits are a key expression of presence. Clear, consistent boundaries create structure, and structure supports independence. A few simple rules, maintained calmly and consistently, help children orient themselves in the world.

If power struggles emerge, we can use them as opportunities to reflect on control rather than behavior. If children have tantrums, presence means staying close without escalating. During the height of anger or upset, we may simply ensure safety. When a child moves into sadness or overwhelm, we can offer comfort and reassurance. The goal is not to stop the tantrum, but to support a child through it.

Flexibility is another essential part of presence. Although routines give children a sense of security, rigidity can disconnect us from their real needs. Sometimes the best choice is to go outside, to move, or to shift the plan. When children feel secure, they can adapt, and so can we.

Finally, presence means embracing life alongside children. Young children notice the world with fresh eyes. Weather, seasons, light, and movement all become sources of joy and wonder. When we allow ourselves to feel awe again, children experience validation that life is something rich and meaningful.

Our Inner Work

Being present with young children is demanding, not because of what children require, but because of what we must bring: patience, humility, emotional regulation, and a willingness to slow down.

This work invites us to become more aware of ourselves: our language, our pace, our reactions, and our assumptions. In doing so, we offer children not just care, but a living model of how to be human in relationship with others.

Presence is not perfection. It is mindful attention. And for young children, that attention becomes the foundation upon which everything else is built.

Please visit our school in West Englewood, Chicago, to learn more about how we think about the role of adults in children’s learning environment!

Language Revealed: The Montessori Journey to Understanding Pronouns

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 11:00:11 GMT

When children begin working with pronouns in Montessori, they are not learning something entirely new. Instead, they are bringing to consciousness language they already use every day.

Pronoun work builds slowly and intentionally. It is not about mastering grammar rules, but about understanding how language functions and how meaning is carried when words stand in for one another.

Beginning With Experience, Not Explanation

Montessori pronoun work begins with movement and spoken language, not written grammar.

We start with little oral games to highlight how a pronoun functions, sometimes eliminating the pronoun (“Josie and John and Jack and Josiah are walking around the table.”) and other times emphasizing the pronoun (“They are walking around the table.”). The children love acting out the phrases, sometimes chanting, moving, watching one another, and laughing. Through these physical experiences, they begin to notice that we don’t always use names when we speak. Certain words take the place of a noun, and the meaning is still clear.

At this stage, we don’t offer the term pronoun because we want children to simply experience its function.

From Movement to Sentences

Once children are ready for more structured language work, we introduce them to the Pronoun Grammar Box so they can build and rebuild sentences using color-coded cards for each part of speech. From one sentence to the next, only a few words change as nouns get replaced by pronouns. By comparing sentences, children discover that although the word changes, the sentence still makes sense.

This comparison is essential. Rather than being told what a pronoun is, children see what it does.

We then invite children to add grammar symbols to the sentence (noun, article, adjective, verb, preposition, adverb) until we finally draw attention to the remaining word: “This word is used in place of a noun.”

Only then do we introduce the pronoun symbol: a purple isosceles triangle, the height of the noun symbol.

Montessori Lore: The Pronoun’s Story

There’s a beloved story about the pronoun symbol.

Long ago, the pronoun was shorter and a different color. Wanting to be as important as the noun, it stretched itself taller and taller to reach the same height. As it stretched, its base became smaller and it turned purple from the effort of standing in the noun’s place.

It’s a poetic reminder of what children discover through their work: a pronoun depends on the noun, borrowing its meaning while standing in for it.

Why Pronouns Come Later

Pronouns are more abstract than other parts of speech. To understand a pronoun, children must already have a strong, concrete understanding of the noun.

For this reason, pronouns (along with interjections) are typically introduced later than other grammar symbols, often in the elementary years. Even then, one lesson is not enough.

In Montessori, the real learning happens after the presentation, when we step back and children work independently with the material. The guide’s role is to show how to use the material, not to explain grammar in detail. Understanding emerges through repeated use.

Deepening Understanding Through Play and Exploration

As children grow more confident, the work expands to include:

Transposition games, where pronouns are removed or replaced to explore how meaning changes.
Command cards, which physically isolate pronouns through action.
Personal pronoun charts, introducing first, second, and third person (singular and plural) through storytelling.
The Verb Family, where children explore the close relationship between the verb, adverb, and pronoun.

Children discover that pronouns often work closely with verbs, helping to carry action and meaning through a sentence.

Subtleties Come Later

At first, Montessori avoids getting caught in fine distinctions. Over time, children may explore nuances such as the difference between possessive pronouns (the book is mine) and possessive adjectives (my book).

These discussions often happen later, sometimes with the support of grammar references, once children have a solid foundation.

Language Revealed, Not Taught

Through this carefully layered progression of movement, sentence work, symbols, and exploration, children develop a deep understanding of how words function differently in sentences.

Montessori grammar invites children to discover how language works at their own pace through hands-on exploration. We don’t rush this process. So by the time children are ready to name the pronoun, it’s not a new idea. It’s something they already know.

We invite you to visit our classrooms in West Englewood, Chicago, to see firsthand the children’s joy of learning!

Sleep as a Skill: A Montessori Reflection for Baby Sleep Day

Mon, 02 Mar 2026 11:00:46 GMT

March 1 marks Baby Sleep Day, so we thought we’d take a moment to reflect on the alignment between Montessori philosophy and modern sleep science.

In Montessori, we focus on independence as a path toward self-sufficiency. This is a gradual, mindful process of becoming capable. For our youngest children, this journey begins with mastery of the most fundamental human needs: eating, toileting, and sleeping.

These areas matter deeply because they are ultimately under a child’s control. No one can make a child eat, use the toilet, or sleep. Our role, then, is not to force outcomes but to remove obstacles. As adults, we can provide thoughtful structure and support children as they develop the skills that build confidence and trust in their own bodies.

Language Shapes Our Intentions

In Montessori, our language reflects our values. For example, we don’t talk about “toilet training.” Instead, we focus on “toilet learning” because children are learning how to care for their bodies within the cultural norms. We are not training behavior. We are supporting development.

The same is true for sleep. Rather than “sleep training,” Montessori invites us to think in terms of supporting independent sleep skills. We help children learn how to settle their bodies, self-soothe, and eventually fall asleep independently, all skills they will rely on for the rest of their lives.

Why Sleep Matters So Much

Research continues to affirm that sleep is foundational. Healthy sleep supports brain development and learning, emotional regulation, physical growth and immune function, and memory and attention.

During sleep, children’s bodies perform essential functions, including muscle growth, tissue repair, protein synthesis, and the release of growth hormones. Deep sleep stages are when the most restorative processes occur.

How Sleep Works

Two systems guide sleep: circadian rhythm and sleep pressure.

Circadian rhythm is the body’s internal 24-hour clock, regulated by light and darkness. When it’s dark, the brain releases melatonin (the sleep hormone). When it’s light, melatonin decreases, and cortisol helps us wake. This is why darkness supports sleep, blue light from screens disrupts it, and consistent bedtimes matter.

Newborns are not born with a mature circadian rhythm. It begins developing around six weeks and becomes more established around three months, which explains why early baby sleep can feel unpredictable.

The other factor is sleep pressure. The longer we’re awake, the stronger the drive to sleep. This pressure builds during the day and resets after a long stretch of rest.

When children miss their sleep window and become overtired, stress hormones (adrenaline and cortisol) kick in, creating that familiar “second wind.” Suddenly, a child who desperately needs sleep seems wired and alert. Understanding sleep pressure helps us time sleep before children tip into exhaustion.

A Montessori Framework for Healthy Sleep

To support both healthy attachment and independence, Montessori encourages clear, loving boundaries. Sleep is no different.

We can focus on four key factors: a prepared sleep environment, predictable and respectful routines, healthy sleep associations, and limits with flexibility.

A Prepared Sleep Environment

Just as we prepare our Montessori classrooms, we want to be intentional about preparing our child’s sleep space at home. Key components include ensuring that the space is:

Dark (blackout curtains help melatonin production)
Quiet and calm
Free of stimulating toys
Slightly cool

A good question to ask ourselves is: Would I easily fall asleep here?

Predictable, Respectful Routines

Children feel secure when they know what comes next. A simple home routine might include:

The final feeding
Putting on pajamas
Toileting/diapering
Tooth brushing
A short story or song
A hug and kiss goodnight

Long baths or extended reading are best before the sleep window, not during it.

Healthy Sleep Associations

Children form associations with the conditions present when they fall asleep. If a child falls asleep being rocked, fed, or held, they will often need that same support during natural night wakings. Instead, we want to place a child in bed drowsy but awake, so they can practice falling asleep independently. Comfort objects, such as a small blanket or stuffed animal, can support this process.

Limits with Flexibility

Sleep needs change as children grow. Consistency matters, but we don’t want to be unnecessarily rigid. It’s important to keep in mind, though, that older children may test boundaries, delay routines, or negotiate endlessly. Calm, consistent follow-through reassures children that the structure is dependable. And just as importantly, adults need support, too! Holding limits is much harder when we are sleep-deprived, so self-care is essential.

Why Independent Sleep Is an Act of Care

Babies naturally cycle through light and deep sleep many times each night. When they wake briefly between cycles, a child who knows how to self-settle can drift back to sleep without distress. Independent sleep skills:

Reduce frequent night wakings
Support early morning sleep
Improve mood and learning
Protect parents’ well-being

Plus, poor sleep in infancy is linked to challenges later in childhood, including difficulties with emotional regulation and health concerns. Supporting sleep early is preventative care.

A Closing Thought for Baby Sleep Day

Supporting sleep is not about forcing independence. It’s about preparing the conditions so independence can emerge naturally, with confidence and trust.

If you’re navigating sleep challenges, please know this: you don’t have to do it alone. Sleep is learned, supported, and refined over time (just like every other human skill!).

We want to honor sleep not as a struggle to overcome, but as a vital rhythm to protect, for both our children and ourselves. If you are interested in learning more, schedule a visit here in West Englewood, Chicago, IL, today!

The Most Important Montessori Practice You Rarely Hear About

Mon, 23 Feb 2026 11:01:03 GMT

One of the quieter, less visible practices in a Montessori elementary classroom is the Child-Guide conference. You may never see it listed on a schedule or mentioned in a weekly update, yet it plays a profound role in children’s experience at school.

Relationship Comes First

The primary purpose of these conferences is to establish, maintain, and strengthen the relationship between the adult and each child. This focus shifts the dynamic from a teacher looking for faults or scolding about unfinished work. Rather, it’s a collegial conversation that enables children to take an active and engaged role in their own education.

These connective conversations are grounded in relationship-building because when children feel emotionally safe and genuinely respected, they are far more willing to reflect, stretch themselves, and take responsibility for their growth.

Every Child, as Often as They Need

Montessori Guides aim to meet regularly with every child, but what “regularly” looks like can vary based on individual needs. Some children benefit from a longer, more formal conference every few weeks. Others need brief, frequent check-ins, sometimes lasting only a minute or two. These short moments might look like a quick conversation at the beginning of the morning, a gentle pause beside a table, or a quiet walk across the room together. The length of the meeting is not what matters. What is important is the message it sends: “I see you. I know your work. I care about how this is going for you.”

What Happens in a Child-Guide Conference?

While conferences vary based on each individual and the moment, they often include:

The child bringing their learning journal or work (finished and unfinished)
The guide bringing observational records
A shared look at what has been accomplished
Gentle reflection on what still feels unfinished
Planning for what might come next
Scheduling new lessons or presentations
Support with larger projects: breaking them into steps, mapping timelines, imagining the finished product

This collaborative time also provides an opportunity to experiment with new strategies (“Would you like to try creating a prioritized list?”), celebrate successes (“You worked so hard on your presentation! How did it feel to share your work?”), and reflect upon challenges (“It seems like you’ve been feeling a bit stuck in your research project. Tell me more about what is going on.”).

Learning to Define “Finished”

One of the most freeing lessons children learn in Montessori is that not every piece of work must be finished to an adult’s standard. Sometimes children accomplish exactly what they set out to do, and continuing would add nothing meaningful. Other times, interest has naturally ended, and letting go is healthy.

This is not about lowering expectations. It is about honoring children’s internal sense of completion and learning when to release what no longer serves a purpose.

Trusting Children’s Self-Assessment

A cornerstone of these conferences is trust. Guides listen carefully to how children assess their own work and articulate their goals. When an adult truly accepts children’s self-assessment, something powerful happens: children begin to see themselves as capable, thoughtful, and worthy of being taken seriously. Children often receive more from the tone and sentiment of these meetings than from the actual content discussed.

The Whole Child Matters

Because Montessori education is concerned with the whole child, conferences may naturally move beyond academics. A Guide might gently offer support with social dynamics or ask about recent struggles during outdoor time. These moments provide a safe space for children to reflect on their own social, emotional, and physical development, and to recognize that there is a network of support.

When Relationships Need Repair

Even in the most thoughtful classrooms, relationships can become strained. What matters is how adults respond. It is never too late for a Guide to sit with a child and say, honestly: “I’ve been thinking about how we’ve been interacting recently, and I’d love to brainstorm with you about what I could do differently.”

When an adult takes responsibility, without demanding the child do the same, something shifts. Trust begins to rebuild. Real dialogue becomes possible.

Children learn from this modeling. In time, after they feel safe, they often step forward to take responsibility themselves.

What Children Are Really Learning

Through these quiet, intentional meetings, children learn that:

their thoughts and feelings matter,
adults can be trusted,
mistakes are part of growth,
reflection leads to independence, and
relationships can be repaired.

And while these conferences may happen quietly in a corner of the classroom, their impact echoes far beyond it. This is true preparation for life.

To learn more about the long-term benefits of Montessori, visit us here in Chicago, Illinois!

From Sounds to Script: How Montessori Children Learn to Write

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 11:00:28 GMT

In Montessori classrooms, the process of writing begins long before children begin to hold a pencil. We start with rich oral language experiences, exploration of sounds, joyful movement, and a growing awareness that the symbols of written language carry meaning.

By the time children begin the recording process, that is, writing words on a surface, they have already done enormous preparation. They know the sandpaper letters so well that they can trace them blindfolded or “write” them in the air. They have composed countless words using the Moveable Alphabet, experimenting with sounds and meaning long before their hands are ready for conventional writing.

And then… one day… they are ready to put chalk to board.

This is the beginning of a beautiful and empowering journey.

The Materials That Support the Journey

To help children make the transition from forming words with the movable alphabet letters to recording them on a surface, we offer a thoughtfully prepared environment that can include:

Small chalkboards (blank, lined, or squared)
Large wall-mounted chalkboards
Containers of sharpened chalk and half-erasers
A writing supply station with paper in various narrow sizes
Pencils and underlays as needed
Accessible writing surfaces around the room

These materials invite practice without pressure, exploration without permanence, and repetition without fatigue, all of which are essential at this stage of development.

Step One: Writing Words with Chalk

When a child has composed a list of words with the Moveable Alphabet, the guide gently introduces the chalkboard: “Let me show you something you can do with the words on your rug.”

The child brings one word to the table, and the guide may make a point to notice how the letters connect and flow. With a piece of chalk in hand, the child can attempt to write the word on the chalkboard. For many children, this moment is astonishing, as they suddenly realize, “I can write!”

Over the next several days, the child chooses words, writes them, erases them, and writes again. During this time, the child naturally refines:

the direction of writing,
the connection between letters, and
the placement of letters along an invisible horizontal line.

This is joyful, purposeful work. And the chalkboard provides endless opportunities for clean slates!

Step Two: Introducing the Baseline

Once the child is comfortably writing words, we introduce the idea of a baseline, which is the line on which most letters sit.

We use a simple ruler to draw a single line across the chalkboard and explain: “I’m using this line to show where the letters sit.”

The child thus begins to understand that writing follows a structure, including the realization that letters aren’t merely floating symbols but exist in space in predictable ways.

Step Three: Baseline and Waistline

As the child’s control increases, we add a second line: the waistline. This is the space where most lowercase letters rise up to, and introducing it helps children refine the size and placement of their script.

Using pastel chalk, we shade the space between the baseline and waistline, giving a soft visual guide. Over the next several days, the space becomes a little narrower. And then narrower still.

Eventually, the child works confidently on a nine-lined chalkboard, and from there, we transition to paper. Many children around five-and-a-half naturally begin to prefer writing directly on paper rather than returning to the Moveable Alphabet. They have internalized the shapes of letters, the structure of words, and the flow of writing.

It is important to remember: the natural size of children’s script varies. Some begin writing very small, others larger. We follow the child rather than a rigid sequence.

The ultimate goal is simple and elegant: to write confidently on a single line.

What This Work Supports

A child who moves through this sequence with joy and readiness:

develops beautiful, legible handwriting,
gains confidence in written expression, and
understands that writing is a tool for communication.

This is monumental work for a young child. It marks the moment when their mind and hand unite to express their own thoughts. Most importantly, writing unfolds naturally when the groundwork has been laid with care.

Schedule a tour of our school in Chicago to see how we honor this journey with care and intention.

The Quiet Landing: Why Children Need Time After School

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 11:01:08 GMT

When we pick up our children from school, it’s almost automatic to ask, “How was your day?”

And just as automatically, the answers tend to fall flat: fine, good, okay, or sometimes nothing at all.

As adults, we can probably relate. When someone asks about our day, we don’t always feel like revisiting every detail, especially before we’ve had a chance to rest or reset. For children, this challenge is even greater.

In Montessori environments, children are immersed in experiences that are rich, complex, and often difficult to put into words. How does a young child explain the sensorial experience of carefully carrying each cube of the Pink Tower across the room? Or describe the quiet satisfaction of discovering that ten tens create a hundred square? Or articulate the subtle social negotiations that happen during community lunch?

Even for older children, language often lags behind experience.

Why “How Was Your Day?” Can Feel Like Too Much

As children move into the elementary years, they are also navigating peer relationships that are still very black and white. A single interaction can color their entire perception of the day. So their reports may sound overly simple: someone was mean, someone was nice, the day was bad, the day was good.

But often, the issue isn’t that children don’t want to share. Instead, the timing is off.

Research on children’s nervous systems helps explain why. When children walk out of school, their brains are often still in a state of high alert. Throughout the day they’ve managed noise, social expectations, concentration, corrections, and constant stimulation. Their nervous system hasn’t fully shifted out of “school mode” yet.

So it helps if we remember that we aren’t greeting children in their most rational state.

Those first minutes after pickup are a transition, not a conversation window. When we jump in with questions too quickly, even well-meaning ones, we may unintentionally overwhelm our children’s nervous system, which hasn’t had time to settle.

Connection Before Conversation

In Montessori, we place great importance on transitions. We know children need time to move from one state of being to another, whether that’s arriving at school, moving between activities, or going home at the end of the day.

Instead of starting with questions, we can start with presence.

When we first see our children, a warm greeting that communicates “I’m happy to see you” goes a long way. Some children need a snack. Some need quiet. Some need movement, proximity, or simply space. This is not the moment to gather information. This is the moment to re-establish connection.

When families allow even 10 to 12 minutes of quiet decompression after school, through silence, music, or simply being together, children regulate more quickly. Evening stress decreases, cooperation improves, and children are more likely to talk voluntarily later on.

Rather than interrogating right after school. Try coexisting. This pause is deeply respectful.

When Children Are Ready to Talk

Later, after your child has had time to settle back into your care, you may notice that conversation begins naturally. This is often when children share what mattered most to them, not what we might have thought to ask about.

When you do open the door to conversation, gentle specificity helps. Broad questions like “How was your day?” can feel overwhelming. Instead, try comments that invite reflection without pressure:

“I noticed you seemed really focused when I picked you up.”
“I’m here if you want to tell me about something you worked on today.”
“What felt good about today?”

Just as important as the words is our availability. Putting down the phone, pausing the logistics, and showing with our body language that we are truly listening makes it safer for children to share.

Listening for Timing, Not Just Content

This approach applies across ages. Even adolescents benefit from what some call a “quiet landing” after school. When we honor timing, we’re less likely to walk into the emotional residue of the day and more likely to build cooperation and connection later.

In Montessori, we often say: regulation comes before reflection. Children don’t need us to extract their feelings. They need us to create the conditions where feelings can land safely.

Sometimes that looks like silence. Sometimes it looks like presence. And sometimes, after enough space has been given, it looks like a child finally saying exactly what mattered most.

So the question isn’t just “Do I listen to what my child says?” And instead becomes: “Do I listen for when they’re ready to speak?”

Curious to learn more strategies to support your child during transitions? Set up a time to come visit here in West Englewood, Chicago. We love to connect!

Understanding Equivalence: A Montessori Approach to Math Insight

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 11:00:24 GMT

In Montessori mathematics, we often talk about three key ideas that help children make sense of geometry: congruence, similarity, and equivalence.

Of these, equivalence is the most powerful and the most far-reaching.

Mastering the concept of equivalence lays the foundation for understanding area and volume, supports the Pythagorean theorem, and ultimately prepares children for deeper work with fractions and algebraic thinking.

Children don’t need to have mastered fractions to begin exploring equivalence, but a bit of early fraction work helps them make connections more fluidly. Most importantly, they need time, space, and hands-on materials to discover these relationships for themselves.

What Is Equivalence?

At its heart, equivalence means that two shapes, while different in appearance, occupy the same amount of space. They have equal value in terms of area.

The word itself comes from two Latin roots:

aequus, meaning equal, and
valere, meaning value.

So “equivalent” quite literally means equal in value.

This idea might sound straightforward to us as adults, but for children, it becomes most meaningful through concrete exploration.

A Peek Inside the Montessori Lesson

When introducing equivalence, we begin by laying out geometric insets, first with the pieces in their frames, then outside the frames, which provides experience with how shapes relate through direct manipulation.

We place a large square frame on the table. Then we fit two large rectangles (each of which make up half of the square) inside it. They fill the frame exactly. Next, we remove the rectangles and place two large triangles (again which form halves of the square) into the same square frame. They fill it just as perfectly.

Although the shapes differ, they take up the same amount of space. Each piece is half of the whole. They are equivalent.

Children then compare individual rectangles and triangles, seeing that while the shapes look nothing alike, they still share the same “value” within the whole. This comparison is what allows children to eventually understand that shapes can be broken apart, rearranged, or recombined and yet still hold the same area.

For children who need a more tactile entry point, we offer tracing, cutting, and checking that the two different shapes take up the same amount of space. Children love proving to themselves that different shapes can represent equal areas. It is mathematical reasoning born from their own discoveries.

Exploration: The Heart of the Work

Once the basic idea is introduced, the real learning begins as children explore with different shapes and combinations of shapes. In addition to manipulating the pieces, they can trace, cut, check, rearrange, question, and try again.

This is where true learning happens because humans learn through our hands! Children get to embody abstract concepts. In Montessori education, children learn by doing, not by memorizing.

Introducing Mathematical Symbols

Later, once children are comfortable identifying congruent, similar, and equivalent shapes, we introduce the symbols that represent each concept.

We often begin the lesson with a simple invitation:

Can someone find two congruent figures?

Can someone find two similar figures?

Can someone find two equivalent figures?

After the children place each set on the table, we add the symbols:

The equal sign between two equivalent figures.
The similarity symbol between two similar shapes.
The congruence symbol, a combination of the two, between congruent shapes.

This prepares children to use these symbols in their own booklets, charts, and geometric discoveries. It also helps children see how math is a language and that it can communicate relationships clearly and beautifully.

Why This Work Matters

Equivalence becomes a cornerstone of later mathematical thinking. When children can transform shapes, make comparisons, and see underlying relationships, they build the insight needed to derive formulas for complex shapes or to understand why the Pythagorean theorem works.

Using these materials inspires curiosity, fosters the ability to see relationships, and provides firsthand experience with the logic of the universe. And that is the essence of Montessori math!

Come see for yourself how joyful geometry can be! Visit us here in Chicago.

What To Do With Disrespect

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 11:01:34 GMT

Few experiences challenge us adults more than feeling disrespected by our children. When a child talks back, shouts hurtful words, or responds with anger, it can strike at the heart of our sense of connection. Yet when we examine these moments more closely, they often reveal something deeper: a child struggling with big feelings and an adult unsure how to respond without escalating the situation.

Montessori education reminds us to look beneath behavior and see the developing child who is still learning emotional regulation, communication, and perspective-taking. Disrespectful words are often less about defiance and more about overwhelm.

When Children Say, “I Hate You”

Children sometimes resort to strong words when they realize they cannot change an adult’s decision. A request to go to a friend’s house or a desire for more independence can quickly turn into an emotional outburst when the answer is “not today.” For many children, especially younger ones, emotions tend to be extreme. They feel that they love a parent when things go their way and hate them when they feel thwarted.

As adults, however, we hear the word hate with its full weight and meaning. Merriam-Webster defines hate as “extreme dislike or antipathy: loathing,” and adults often reserve it for moments of deep hurt. Children do not. They use the word as a blunt tool to express frustration, disappointment, or a sense of powerlessness.

Rather than reacting to the word itself, Montessori-informed parenting encourages us to respond to the feelings beneath the word. A calm acknowledgment, such as “You’re really angry right now,” helps our children feel seen and understood. The goal is not to accept disrespectful language but to model emotional literacy. By naming the emotion instead of punishing the outburst, we can show children that big feelings can be handled with clarity and calm.

When adults overreact to the word hate, children may learn that it is an effective way to provoke a response. When adults remain grounded, children begin to understand that emotions can be expressed without resorting to hurtful language.

When Children Talk Back

Those angry last words, muttered insults, or attempts to reopen a closed discussion (a.k.a. ‘back talk’) are often viewed as the pinnacle of disrespect. For adults, it can feel like a direct challenge to authority. For children, however, back talk usually signals that the situation has reached a boiling point. They are overwhelmed, upset by a limit, or trying to have the final say when they feel powerless.

Some children also learn that persistent pushback can wear down adults’ resolve. If arguing leads to a changed decision even once, children will understandably try again.

One effective approach is simply not to engage. Ignoring back talk while still holding firm to the original limit removes the reward of an emotional reaction. It communicates, “The boundary is set, and I won’t be pulled into a power struggle.”

This is not permissiveness. It is clarity. When adults refuse to escalate, children gradually stop using back talk as a tool. Over time, they experience a powerful model of self-control: an adult who remains peaceful, firm, and grounded even in tense moments.

Allowing a child to have the last word can feel counterintuitive. Yet it often reduces conflict, shortens arguments, and preserves the adult-child connection. It teaches children that relationships do not depend on “winning” but on mutual respect and emotional resilience.

Choosing Connection Over Control

Disrespectful language can trigger a strong emotional response in us as adults. It can feel personal, even when it isn’t meant that way. In heated moments, it can help to pause and ask a simple question:

Is the goal to be right, or is the goal to remain close?

Children need loving boundaries, but they also need adults who can maintain connection even when emotions run high. Responding calmly to disrespect does not mean accepting the behavior. It means addressing the root cause rather than reacting to the symptom.

Montessori parenting encourages adults to guide children with both firmness and grace. We focus on teaching children not only what behavior is expected, but also how to manage the feelings that fuel behavior. When adults model emotional steadiness, children learn by example. And as they grow, relationships deepen rather than fracture.

Over time, the decision to prioritize connection builds trust, strengthens communication, and helps children develop the internal tools needed for respectful interactions.

Visit us here in Chicago to see how we help families invest in nurturing long-term relationships!

Creating a Prepared Environment (at Home, too!)

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 11:01:18 GMT

When Dr. Maria Montessori spoke of the prepared environment, she wasn’t just describing a beautiful classroom filled with child-sized furniture and neatly arranged materials. She was describing a space that nourishes the whole person, a place designed to meet children’s developmental needs, spark curiosity, and invite purposeful activity.

A Montessori prepared environment is a place designed for children. And the design deeply respects children’s natural drives, including their sensitive periods for learning, their human tendencies, and their desire to move, explore, and belong. The idea is to create a place where children can feel at home while developing both their inner selves and outer skills.

When thinking about the prepared environment, we consider three essential parts: the adult, the community of children, and the physical environment. Together, they create a living, breathing ecosystem that supports growth, harmony, and joy.

The Adult: The Protector and Connector

Dr. Montessori described the adult as both the preparer and the protector of the child’s world. In the classroom, guides carefully set up the environment, observe the children, and make thoughtful adjustments. At home, parents and caregivers can play a similar role.

We prepare ourselves to see the child with fresh eyes, to notice what they are drawn to, what frustrates them, and what challenges inspire them. We prepare the space to meet their developmental needs and safeguard it by maintaining order, calm, and respect. Most importantly, we protect children’s concentration.

Consider this when your child is deeply focused, whether on pouring water, drawing, or building. Try to pause before stepping in. That moment of absorption is sacred. It is your child constructing their own self.

At Home Examples

Observation before intervention: Your toddler struggles to put on shoes. Instead of jumping in, take a breath and watch. Offer help only if asked, or suggest, “Would you like help, or would you like to try again?”

Protect calm: When your home feels chaotic, try to simplify. Fewer toys, fewer interruptions, and a predictable rhythm of the day can create the peace children need to explore freely.

Reflection

Do I allow my child enough time and space to work things out independently?
How can I simplify our routines or spaces to make daily life calmer for everyone?

The Community of Children: Learning Through Living Together

Montessori environments thrive on the energy of mixed-age communities. Children learn from one another through imitation, conversation, and collaboration. A child who sees another tying a bow or cleaning up a spill is motivated to try it too.

At home, even if there’s only one child, the community still matters. This sense of togetherness can include siblings, cousins, neighbors, or even the larger community through friends at the park, children’s classes, or family gatherings. Through these interactions, children learn cooperation, empathy, patience, and the joy of helping others.

At Home Examples

Siblings as teachers: A five-year-old shows a younger sibling how to water the plants. The older child gains confidence and pride, while the younger feels included and capable.

Community beyond family: Involve your child in simple acts of connection, like dropping off cookies to a neighbor, feeding a friend’s pet, or helping with a family meal. These are all part of the child’s social education.

Reflection

How does my child experience community day to day?
Are there ways to include my child more meaningfully in family routines or community life?

The Physical Environment: A Space That Invites Activity

The physical environment is what most of us picture first, maybe a beautifully ordered space filled with child-sized tools and thoughtfully chosen materials. But Montessori reminds us that the environment is not meant to be decorative. It must be useful and alive.

A true prepared environment offers motives for activity. The materials and tools invite movement, care, and exploration. The space should be free of clutter so that children can see, choose, and act independently. Too many toys or too much decoration can overwhelm rather than inspire.

At Home Examples

Practical independence: Provide a small jug of water and a cloth within reach so your child can pour a drink or wipe a spill without help.

Accessible order: Have hooks at child height for coats, a low shelf for shoes, and one tidy space for toys or books.

Beauty and simplicity: A sense of calm that welcomes your child to explore can be as simple as a small vase with a flower your child arranged, or a few carefully chosen books displayed face-out.

When children have the freedom to act in such an environment, they grow in confidence, coordination, and joy.

Reflection

Does our home invite my child to participate, or does it rely on adults for everything?
What small changes could make our spaces more functional, beautiful, and child-centered?

The Intangible Environment: The Spirit of the Space

Beyond furniture and materials lies something harder to define, yet something children feel deeply. The intangible environment is the emotional and spiritual atmosphere.

It is the feeling of peace that comes from order, kindness, and beauty. It’s the sense of belonging that grows from love and respect. Dr. Montessori wrote that we must “give the best to the youngest.” This means not only lovely things to look at, but a place that feels safe and inviting, a space where mistakes are welcomed as part of learning.

At Home Examples

A small reading nook with a soft blanket and natural light, where your child can rest or read quietly.

Gentle background music or birdsong instead of television noise.

Family rituals, such as a candle lit at dinner, fresh flowers on the table, a kind word shared at bedtime, communicate beauty, reverence, and love.

Reflection

What does the “mood” of our home feel like?
Does it reflect calm, beauty, and respect or is it hurried and overstimulating?
How can we make small changes to bring more peace and warmth into our family’s daily rhythm?

Creating a Place Where Children Can Become

In the end, the prepared environment, whether in a Montessori classroom or your own living room, isn’t about furniture or materials. It’s about meeting children’s developmental needs with respect and love.

Come visit us here in Chicago. to see how we prepare the environment with care, help children become their best selves, and send the message: “You belong here. You are capable. You are trusted.”

Nurturing the Mathematical Mind

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 11:00:42 GMT

Dr. Maria Montessori often referred to what she called the mathematical mind. She borrowed this term from the philosopher Blaise Pascal, who observed that the human mind is mathematical by nature. Montessori used it to describe the part of the mind that seeks exactitude. We can think of this as the ability to organize, classify, and quantify the world through logical and precise thinking.

Order is foundational to how our minds are built. Alongside order, imagination and abstraction work together to create mental constructs, such as the symbols and systems humans have agreed upon to represent quantities and relationships. These qualities are not gifts bestowed upon a few. They are universal human tendencies.

To think mathematically is natural to every human being. We are all born with the potential to reason, calculate, and find order in our environment. Yet, in traditional education, mathematics is often viewed as difficult or reserved for a select group of “math-minded” people. In Montessori education, we see this misconception as a matter of exposure, not ability.

Children frequently hear numbers spoken or see them printed in books and on signs, but these random experiences rarely connect to the real quantities or relationships that numbers represent. In this way, numbers remain abstract symbols that are memorized but not understood. Yet memory without understanding does not lead to intelligence.

The Montessori approach provides children with rich, sensorial experiences that ground mathematical concepts in reality. The meaningful, hands-on materials allow children to literally construct their understanding. In this way, children can move through a process of concrete experience to abstract computation and understanding.

How Montessori Math Is Organized

The math curriculum in our Children’s House classrooms is organized into six main groups of exercises:

Numbers 1 to 10
The Decimal System
Continuation of Counting
Exploration and Memorization of the Tables
Passage to Abstraction
Fractions

Each of these groups of exercises follows a natural progression that builds upon children’s growing understanding. Beautifully designed materials make abstract concepts concrete and meaningful.

Numbers 1 to 10

A common mistake in more traditional approaches is oversimplifying early math. Teaching numbers 1 to 10 might sound straightforward, but it actually involves integrating several distinct concepts: quantity, symbol, sequence, and one-to-one correspondence.

Montessori materials isolate each of these concepts so that children’s understanding can develop incrementally. After using the red rods to explore and understand the concept of length, children move on to number rods, which match the red rods except for one key aspect: the rods are color-coded in ten alternating blue and red sections to isolate the concept of quantity as a single, tangible entity.

To prepare the mind and the hand for writing, we introduced number symbols with the sandpaper numbers, which children use to trace and for memory games. Then, children begin matching number cards to the red and blue number rods to connect quantity to its symbol. Later, spindle boxes and the numbers and counters materials expand the idea of quantity into sets and introduce zero as an “empty set.”

Finally, playing the number memory game helps children apply their understanding to the real world. Even before formal arithmetic, children also begin to experience the operations of addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division through these materials.

The Decimal System

After mastering numbers 1 through 10, we introduce children to the decimal system. Through exploratory and game-like activities, children discover how quantities are organized hierarchically into units, tens, hundreds, and thousands. The golden bead material makes this concept tangible and deeply satisfying.

Children manipulate these materials to perform the four operations (addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division) concretely. The goal at this point is not accuracy in calculation, but understanding of process and hierarchy. We want children to grasp what happens during the different types of operations. For example, when we add, we combine smaller quantities to get a larger quantity. When we divide, we share or split something evenly. And so forth.

As children gain confidence, they transition to more abstract materials, such as the stamp game and dot game, which help them bridge the gap between hands-on and mental calculation.

Continuation of Counting

The Continuation of Counting exercises expand children’s understanding from 11 to 100 and eventually to 1,000. Using Seguin boards, the colored-bead stair, and bead chains, children practice linear and skip-counting and develop a visual and tactile sense of numerical progression.

This work reinforces the hierarchical structure of the decimal system while providing a sensorial experience of quantity. When children use the bead chains, for example, they see how 1,000 stretches far beyond 100.

We also have lots of counting opportunities within the classroom environments, so that abstract ideas are grounded in daily life. Through this repetition and exploration, children naturally progress from rote counting to true numerical understanding.

Exploration and Memorization of the Tables

After experiencing operations with quantity, children begin to explore and memorize essential math facts, such as the addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division tables.

The work begins concretely, using beads and boards, and progresses to more abstract exercises, such as blank charts, which allow children to test their memory independently.

Here, accuracy becomes the goal, supported by built-in controls of error. Through exploration, children often discover mathematical laws on their own. For instance, often realize that the order of factors doesn’t change the product in multiplication. These discoveries are especially meaningful because they are rooted in experience rather than rote learning.

Passage to Abstraction

At this stage, children begin to internalize mathematical concepts. They merge their understanding of process (from the decimal system) with their memorized math facts.

Materials such as the small bead frame, hierarchy material, and racks and tubes help children work with larger quantities and move naturally toward mental calculation. Here, children’s reasoning transitions from concrete to abstract, from experience to logic.

Fractions

We introduce fractions first as a sensorial exploration of parts of a whole. Later, the fraction materials become tools for mathematical reasoning. Children explore operations with fractions and concepts such as equivalence, preparing them for future work with more complex relationships.

The Beauty of Montessori Mathematics

Through carefully sequenced, hands-on experiences, Montessori mathematics allows each child to build genuine understanding, not just of numbers, but of relationships, order, and logic.

In this way, Montessori education honors the mathematical mind: the natural human drive toward precision, order, and understanding. When children have meaningful mathematical experiences, they also develop clear thinking and problem-solving in all areas of life.

To see more about how we nurture the mathematical mind, schedule a tour here at our school in West Englewood, Chicago.

Why Your Child Interrupts (and What They’re Really Telling You)

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 11:00:56 GMT

We all know that moment: you answer a phone call, a visitor stops by, or you finally sit down to rest. Then your children suddenly need you. They seem to appear out of nowhere: asking questions, demanding attention, or starting a squabble with a sibling.

While these moments can feel frustrating, they actually reveal something important: your child’s deep need for connection and security. When your attention shifts to someone or something else, your child may feel that their access to you (their safe, familiar center) is threatened.

From a Montessori perspective, this isn’t misbehavior. It’s communication. Your child is expressing something along the lines of: “I need to know I still belong, even when you’re busy.”

Laying the Groundwork: Connection Before Independence

The best way to prevent these interruptions isn’t just to set limits but to strengthen connections before they’re tested.

Protect one-on-one time . Create small, predictable moments for each child. They don’t need to be elaborate. Think about the little things, like taking a short walk together, reading a favorite book, or making breakfast side by side. When this time is consistent, your child feels secure in your relationship and will be less likely to compete for your attention.

Be fully present when you can . When you are spending time together, let your phone stay out of reach. This quiet modeling communicates, “When I’m with you, I’m really with you.”

Invite responsibility . Children gain confidence and feel important when they have real contributions at home. Even small tasks, such as helping feed the pet, folding napkins, or assisting a sibling, can help them feel grounded in their role in the family community.

A Practical Montessori-Inspired Strategy

Children thrive when they can predict what will happen next. If phone calls are a recurring challenge, you can prepare your child by practicing in advance.

Choose a calm time to introduce the idea:

“Sometimes I need to talk on the phone. While I do that, you’ll have a special activity to work on until I’m done. Then I’ll come back to you.”
Together, decide what that activity could be (a favorite puzzle, coloring book, or quiet game).
Then practice through role play. Pretend to answer the phone while your child goes to their activity. When the “call” is over, reconnect warmly: “You waited so patiently! Thank you for respecting my phone time.”

During real calls, you can offer gentle physical reassurance (perhaps a quick hug or a touch on the back) without engaging in conversation. This small, wordless connection helps your child feel secure while still learning to wait.

Modeling Respect for Boundaries

Over time, your child learns an important lesson about how love doesn’t disappear when attention shifts. They also learn to respect others’ time and space, an essential social skill that begins in the home environment.

This kind of learning takes repetition and patience. Expect your child to test the limits now and then, especially in the beginning. But each time you calmly follow through, you’re helping your child build emotional independence, self-regulation, and respect for others’ boundaries.

A Gentle Reminder

When we treat our children’s bids for attention as communication rather than interruption, we create opportunities to teach empathy, patience, and mutual respect. These lessons begin with us, through the environment we prepare, the consistency we provide, and the example we set.

Curious to learn more about how we think differently about children’s behavior? Schedule a visit to our school in Chicago, Illinois. We love to connect!

Elementary Story: How Geometry Got Its Name

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 11:00:56 GMT

In Montessori elementary classrooms, we like to introduce big ideas with big stories. We offer children a sense of wonder first, sort of like an imaginative doorway, so that when they later study formulas, theorems, and proofs, they already feel connected to the human story behind them.

One of these stories is The Story of How Geometry Got Its Name, an introduction to a subject that is far older than the textbooks and protractors we encounter today. In Montessori, Geometry is more than about shapes. It is about human beings solving real problems in the real world.

A Problem as Old as Civilization

To introduce geometry, we take children about five thousand years back in time to the ancient civilization of Egypt. This was a land shaped by the , the longest river in the world. Each year, the Nile flooded its banks as snowmelt poured down from the mountains far to the south. The Egyptians depended on this yearly flood as it left behind rich, dark silt that nourished their crops and made life possible in an otherwise harsh desert.

But the flood created a challenge, too. It washed away the boundary markers that separated one farmer’s field from another. When the waters receded, no one could quite remember where their land began and ended. Arguments ensued. “This corner is mine!” And the fields needed to be measured and marked again.

The First Geometers: The Rope Stretchers

To solve this annual problem, the Egyptians relied on a special group of skilled workers called the Harpedonaptai, or Rope Stretchers. These were early land surveyors who used a knotted rope tied at regular intervals and three weights to create a very particular triangle.

In the classroom, we invite a few children to hold a prepared rope at its large knots, forming that same triangle. As they stretch it out and lay it on the ground, many quickly recognize what the Egyptians had unknowingly created: a scalene right-angled triangle. This shape would later become central to the geometry studied by Greek mathematicians.

The Rope Stretchers used this simple tool to re-establish field boundaries, set right angles, and make sure the land was measured accurately and fairly. Geometry, in its earliest form, served a deeply practical purpose.

From Rope to Pyramid

The Rope Stretchers’ expertise was valued far beyond the farmlands. They also helped lay out the foundations of temples, monuments, and even the Great Pyramid of Giza. The base of the Great Pyramid is a perfect square, which is an astonishing feat of measurement and design. The Pharaoh himself oversaw these measurements, but it was the Rope Stretchers who executed them.

Their work represents one of humanity’s earliest recorded sciences: the careful measuring of the earth.

How Geometry Got Its Name

The name geometry reflects this ancient practice. It comes from two Greek words:

gê — earth

metron — measure

Geometry literally means earth measurement.

The Egyptians did not use the language of right angles, nor did they classify triangles as we do today. Their work was grounded in practical needs. They needed to solve problems, organize land, and create structures that would endure for thousands of years. Yet their discoveries influenced later thinkers like Pythagoras, who likely traveled to Egypt and learned from their methods. Over time, the simple knotted rope inspired a whole discipline devoted to understanding lines, angles, shapes, and the relationships between them.

Why We Tell This Story in Montessori

When Montessori children hear this story, something important happens. Geometry becomes more than a set of rules or vocabulary words. It becomes a human endeavor born from curiosity, necessity, and ingenuity.

This is the heart of Montessori’s cosmic education: helping children see knowledge not as isolated subjects, but as gifts from generations before them. When children pick up a ruler, explore angles with a protractor, or classify triangles in the classroom, they are continuing a legacy that began with those early Rope Stretchers on the banks of the Nile.

Through story, children feel connected to the people who shaped our world and to the problems that inspired great ideas. Schedule a tour today to see how geometry becomes meaningful, purposeful, and alive for our children here in Texas,

Keeping Routines While Honoring the Joy of New Experiences

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 11:01:49 GMT

As we prepare for the holiday season, many of us look forward to the joyful energy of visitors, celebrations, and time spent together. Yet even the most welcome changes can shift daily rhythms, affecting children and adults alike.

In Montessori philosophy, routines provide a sense of order and security, essential ingredients for children’s growing independence and emotional well-being. Balancing these familiar structures with the excitement of new experiences can help all of us enjoy the season with greater calm and connection.

Recognizing What Children Communicate

When children’s behavior shifts during times of change, it often reflects their environment. New faces, altered schedules, and fluctuating parental attention can all contribute to feelings of uncertainty. Instead of viewing potential behavior shifts as unwelcome, we can interpret them as valuable communication, essentially our children’s way of expressing a need for stability and reassurance.

One of the most powerful responses we can provide is simple presence. Taking a few moments to sit beside our children, observe their play, or join them in a familiar activity can quickly restore their sense of connection. Even brief, focused attention can help children feel grounded and secure, allowing their natural cooperation and joy to reemerge.

Once children feel calm and connected, they are better able to engage in conversations about upcoming changes. During these connected moments, we can explain that routines (mealtimes, bedtimes, or daily activities) may look different during the holidays. These conversations help children prepare for the adjustments ahead and strengthen their trust in the adults guiding them.

Preparing for Change Together

Taking some simple steps before family gatherings or holidays can help children understand what lies ahead. Children thrive on predictability, so talking about what will remain consistent and what will change reduces anxiety and increases their capacity to adapt.

What routines will stay the same?
What might be different during this time?
Which activities or traditions are most meaningful to us?

Creating a visual calendar or using a whiteboard to map out plans gives children a concrete way to anticipate events. Inviting them to help with small preparations, such as choosing decorations, helping plan meals, or organizing activities, empowers them to feel capable and included.

Finding Joy in Shared Experiences

While routines provide comfort, flexibility also allows us to experience the joy of spontaneity. The holidays offer a wonderful opportunity to create shared moments such as storytelling, baking together, making crafts, or simply taking a walk outdoors. These experiences help build memories that connect generations.

Inviting extended family members to share stories or recollections from past gatherings can also be grounding. Collecting these memories, perhaps in a family scrapbook or memory journal, creates continuity across time and reminds children that they are part of a larger story.

Children and relatives alike often find satisfaction in contributing to family life. Tasks such as preparing vegetables, setting the table, or folding napkins offer children a sense of purpose and belonging. In true Montessori fashion, participation is more valuable than perfection.

Creating New Rhythms with Intention

The holiday season invites us to find balance between the comfort of familiar routines and the excitement of new experiences. By planning thoughtfully, staying flexible, and responding to children’s needs with empathy, we can approach these times with harmony and joy.

In Montessori education, rhythm and order are seen as foundations for growth, while curiosity and discovery fuel the joy of learning. This holiday season, let’s bring this kind of balance into our homes. By honoring both structure and spontaneity, we create an environment where children feel secure, connected, and free to delight in the world around them.

Let us know more about your holiday rituals and rhythms! Once the season settles, come visit our school here in Chicago.

Valorization: Helping Adolescents Experience Their Own Worth

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 11:01:07 GMT

In Montessori, we recognize that every young person needs to feel they belong, that they are capable, and that they have something of value to contribute to their world. This process of valorization, of coming to know one’s own worth through effort, adaptation, and usefulness, is at the heart of these important human needs.

The Experience of Belonging

Adolescents are entering a new and uncertain territory. They are leaving behind the familiarity of childhood and finding their way in a larger, more complex social world.
What helps them to feel at home? What protects them from feeling lost?

The answer lies in experience. They need the lived understanding that they can adapt, contribute, and make themselves useful. They need the confidence that, no matter the challenge, they have within them the capacity to meet it.

This is not something that can be told to adolescents. Rather, they need to live and earn this through real activity, through purposeful work, and through freedom and responsibility. That lived experience provides valorization, a deep inner experience of usefulness and purpose.

The Roots of Confidence

Valorization is not the result of praise, good grades, or awards. It is the result of work and effort. It is the result of doing something real and discovering that you actually can do it.

We see the beginnings of this process when a toddler insists, “I do it myself.” That same drive for independence grows and transforms over time. In our Montessori environments, we support this process as the young child learns through purposeful activity in a prepared environment, the elementary child tests fairness, justice, and morality in the social world, and the adolescent seeks belonging and contribution through meaningful work in a social context.

At each stage, children are constructing their selves. They are testing the match between their growing capacities and the environment around them. When those conditions are right, when freedom and responsibility coexist, valorization occurs. Young people feel useful. They feel their own worth.

Independence, Normalization, and Adaptation

Dr. Montessori saw human development as a process of self-construction within the particular culture, people, and environment into which a child is born. To thrive, children must adapt to this territory through independence, interaction, and activity.

When the environment welcomes children and allows freedom to move, to choose, and to act, these psychic threads of connection grow strong. Children feel they belong.

But when freedom is restricted, or when the environment doesn’t meet developmental needs, children may feel alienated. They lose that sense of being able to connect and contribute. They begin to feel disconnected in their own world.

Deeply Experienced Usefulness

For the adolescent, valorization comes through work that matters, work that contributes to the life of the community. In Montessori programs, this may take the form of practical projects, environmental stewardship, community building, or social enterprise. But at its heart, it is not about the task itself. It is about the inner experience of usefulness.

When adolescents lead a group project, mentor a younger peer, fix a tool, or tend to animals, they experience themselves as capable and needed. They know they matter.

And once they know this, they are strengthened. They have courage. They are ready for more.

A Lifelong Process

Valorization is not a single event. It is a continuous process that unfolds through every stage of life. We experience it each time we adapt to a new challenge and find that we can meet it. Think about the infant reaching for an object with determination, the preschooler insisting on pouring their own water, the elementary child working through a problem with a friend, and the adolescent finding purpose in meaningful work.

Each is an act of self-construction, a declaration of worth, and a rehearsal for the life of an independent, resilient adult.

Trusting the Process

In Education for a New World , Dr. Montessori said, “We must take a new path, seeking the release of human potentialities.”

That path requires trust. Trust in the child’s inner guide, in the process of development, and in the power of purposeful work.

Valorization is not something we can teach. It is something we must prepare for.
Our role is to create the conditions where valorization can unfold: an environment rich with real responsibility, freedom, and meaningful human connection.

When we do, children come to know, deep within themselves, that they are capable, adaptable, and valuable. They no longer feel out of place in the world. They feel at home within it.

Come to Chicago to see how The Montessori School of Englewood helps young people feel at home throughout their many stages of development.

The Real Secrets to Raising Readers

Mon, 08 Dec 2025 11:01:28 GMT

In this intense era of screens, our children’s connection to books can feel more elusive. We want our children to love reading, but this hope is often mixed with some frustration. Coaxing, reminding, begging, bribing: these may seem like ways to fix the problem. But they tend not to create a long-term love of reading.

So what are the secrets to getting children to read more books?

In Montessori, we try to look at ourselves first to determine what we can shift within ourselves and in our children’s environment. Here are two helpful questions to ask in this process:

Do we limit our children’s access to electronic entertainment?

Do our children see us reading at home?

These are two of the most powerful secrets to raising children who love to read.

The Role of the Environment and Example Setting

When many of us were growing up, screens weren’t constantly competing for our attention. Television hours were limited, and when friends weren’t around, we often turned to books. Getting lost in a story was both exciting and deeply satisfying.

For many of us, those early experiences shaped not only our imaginations but also our academic lives, as the habit of reading can make schoolwork and later studies easier and more enjoyable.

Today, we face new challenges with our children. Setting limits on screens takes real effort, and finding time to model reading can feel nearly impossible. Yet these two factors—limits and example setting—remain essential.

Boundaries Around Screens

Setting limits isn’t only about how much time children spend with electronic devices, but also where they use them. When devices are used in private spaces, they become part of a child’s daily rhythm in a way that’s hard to monitor and even harder to moderate. Keeping electronics in common areas makes it easier to create balance and accountability.

Of course, sometimes limiting screen use simply doesn’t feel practical. There are times we need quiet. We have housework that needs to get done. We may feel like it’s easier when our children are occupied with an electronic distraction. However, in those moments, it can help to think about our priorities: Would a little more noise or clutter in the living room be worth the trade-off of better balance for our child? Sometimes short-term inconveniences create long-term growth.

Why Limits Matter

Creating limits teaches children far more than when to turn off a screen. It teaches them about moderation, balance, and boundaries, the very skills they’ll need as independent, responsible adults.

When we give in to tantrums or constant demands for entertainment, children learn that persistence in protest leads to results. They are hard-wired to test limits because that's how they find out where those limits are. Our job is to stay steady, calm, and consistent. Children actually find comfort in knowing that the adult is in charge of the boundary.

Read With Them

In addition to setting boundaries for electronic use, another critical step is making reading a part of daily life. If we want our children to read more, a first step is to read to them, even when they’re capable of reading on their own.

For young children, make story time a daily ritual.
For older children, share interesting news articles, recipes, or stories from your day.
Create a quiet, well-lit reading nook in your home.
Designate “screen-free” times in the evening when everyone (adults included!) reads.

When children see us reading, it normalizes the habit. It communicates the message that reading isn’t just for assignments or school, but rather is part of a full, rich life. Children who grow up surrounded by books and readers begin to see reading as something enjoyable and deeply human.

In the end, the “secrets” to raising readers aren’t really secrets at all. They’re about creating an environment that invites curiosity, setting limits that protect attention, and modeling the joy of learning every single day.

Come visit us here in West Englewood, Chicago, to see how we help make reading a joyful experience for children!

Montessori Materials Explained: The Flat Bead Frame

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 11:01:15 GMT

The Flat Bead Frame, also known as the Horizontal Bead Frame or Golden Bead Frame, is one of the most elegant bridges between the concrete and the abstract in the Montessori elementary math curriculum. It allows children to work with very large numbers, up to the hundreds of millions, while continuing to manipulate tangible representations of each place value.

Unlike many elementary materials designed for group exploration, this work is typically done individually (or with a partner), offering quiet moments of concentration and reflection amid the classroom’s collaborative hum.

From the Large Bead Frame to the Flat Bead Frame

At first glance, the Flat Bead Frame looks similar to the Large Bead Frame, but it represents a significant step forward in abstraction. The Large Bead Frame has seven horizontal wires and color-coded beads arranged by the simple, thousands, and millions period, thereby emphasizing the hierarchical nature of the decimal system.

In contrast, the Flat Bead Frame is organized vertically, with nine columns of golden beads, all identical in color, representing units through one hundred millions. The numerical categories are written across the top, and red zeroes are printed along the bottom to highlight the effect of multiplying by powers of ten. The golden color of the beads makes the material more symbolic, signaling that the child is now ready to move away from concrete color coding toward pure quantity and value.

Introducing the Material: Connecting the Known to the New

When introducing this material, we often begin by inviting a child to compare it with the Large Bead Frame. This connection helps the child orient to what is familiar while noticing what is new: the vertical organization, the placement of numbers, the red zeros, and the use of golden beads instead of hierarchical colors.

The child then begins with a simple multiplication problem, like 1,246 × 3. We write the multiplicand on a paper strip and place it beneath the wires so that each digit aligns with its corresponding place value. Using gray number cards or slips of paper for the multiplier, the child then moves the beads to represent each partial product. The process is rhythmic and deliberate: 6 units three times is 18 units (eight units and one ten)… 4 tens three times is 12 tens (four tens and one hundred)… The movement of beads down the frame creates a clear, physical representation of the multiplication process.

Moving Toward Abstraction: Powers of Ten in Action

As the child progresses, the Flat Bead Frame becomes a tool for exploring long multiplication (also called compound multiplication) and multiplication by powers of ten. When the multiplier contains tens, hundreds, or thousands, the child learns to physically shift the multiplicand to the left—mirroring the way zeros are added in written notation. The red zeroes along the base of the frame make this concept immediately visible. What might otherwise be a rote rule (“just add a zero”) becomes an embodied experience of place value and the movement of quantity through hierarchical orders.

A Continuation of Earlier Montessori Work

This material builds on experiences children had with the Bank Game at the primary level, when they would work as a group to exchange quantities of 10 for the next category. On the Flat Bead Frame, however, the work becomes deeply personal and precise. It requires concentration, accuracy, and an understanding of the relationships between categories. These qualities help build the foundation for true mathematical abstraction.

The Mathematical Mind in Motion

Through this work, children reinforce their multiplication facts, internalize the commutative law, and gain confidence in working with large numbers. More importantly, they begin to grasp that mathematics follows a consistent and logical structure, one they can visualize, manipulate, and eventually imagine without the aid of concrete materials.

A Quiet Revelation

The Flat Bead Frame exemplifies Montessori’s belief that “the hand is the instrument of the mind.” As children move the golden beads, their understanding of place value and multiplication deepens. The process of working with the Flat Bead Frame provides children with a conceptual leap from seeing mathematics as a set of operations to recognizing it as a beautifully ordered system.

Visit us in Chicago, IL, to see how what begins as a physical exercise in moving beads becomes, over time, a quiet revelation and a process of mathematical thinking. This is Montessori math at its best!

10 Minutes That Change Everything: The Power of Special Time with Your Child

Mon, 24 Nov 2025 11:01:04 GMT

Our children are particularly sensitive to changes. Whether something as seemingly small as picture day, or as major as a new sibling, our children feel the energetic shift, and we may see resulting (and perhaps frustrating) changes in their behavior.

The irony is that when our children are acting their worst, they need our love the most. A strategy for handling these kinds of challenges is to set aside “Special Time.”

Special Time is a proactive way to strengthen our relationship with our child. During this time, our role is to be fully present, with no distractions or multitasking. No phone, no dishes, no “just a quick text.” We are giving our child undivided attention and pouring in love, delight, appreciation, and a bit of extra enthusiasm.

We choose when it will happen and how long it will last (it works to start with just ten minutes), and our child chooses what you do together. Yes, this is child-led!

Practical Tips

During Special Time, we follow our child’s lead and play whatever they choose. Be sure to play anything they want during this time and commit to the time together. Children love this special time, and they tend to choose the activity we least enjoy! If this is the case, remember it is only for a short duration. Even a short burst of undivided attention helps children feel secure, valued, and deeply connected. And when children feel connected, they are more cooperative with us and each other.

A timer is essential. Why? Because our child may come up with some big, wild, or noisy ideas! Ten minutes of mess or silliness is easier to embrace than an hour. The timer helps us be all-in, and it reassures our child that this time is both precious and reliable.

If you have more than one child, you’ll want to find ways to protect this one-on-one time. Some parents stagger bedtimes or wake-ups. Others enlist a partner, sitter, or neighbor to help. Sometimes screen time is a perfectly reasonable tool for protecting Special Time with another sibling. With just a little creativity, ten minutes really can fit into the rhythms of family life.

How to Begin

Introduce it. Explain that you’ve learned about a new way to spend time together called Special Time. Commit to doing it every day for the next five days, for ten minutes each time.

Announce special time with joy. When it’s time, say, “It’s time for Special Time! I’m setting the timer for ten minutes, and we can do whatever you want!”

Follow their lead. Join their play. If you’re not sure what to do, sit at their level, smile, and stay present. Sometimes your attention is all they need.

End with affection. When the timer rings, wrap up warmly. A hug, high five, or smile is perfect. Follow what feels right for your child.

Why It Matters

Special Time builds trust, connection, and joy. It gives children the message that they are worthy of our time and attention, not just when they need correction or help, but simply for who they are.

From a Montessori perspective, this practice aligns beautifully with the principle of following the child. In Montessori environments, children thrive because adults prepare the space and then step back, allowing the child’s choices to drive the activity. Special Time brings that same spirit into your home. It tells your child: I see you, I delight in you, and your choices matter.

We often talk about independence, but true independence rests on a foundation of strong, loving relationships. By offering these short, intentional moments, we help our children feel secure, valued, and confident in their choices. These qualities then serve our children in all areas of their growth.

Try this today! Set the timer for ten minutes, follow your child, and see what unfolds.

If you want to learn more about how positive relationships boost closeness and cooperation, set up a time to see our school here in Chicago.

Navigating Friendships and Social Challenges: A Montessori Parent’s Guide to Building Resilience and Empathy

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 11:01:16 GMT

The elementary years are full of exciting growth and also fraught with tricky social situations. Children are learning how to communicate kindly and effectively, make and maintain friendships, manage their emotions, and solve problems, all while figuring out their place within a group. It’s no surprise that challenges arise.

As parents and caregivers, our instinct is to protect our children, especially when they come home upset. But how we respond matters. Our children do need to vent, and these moments offer powerful opportunities to teach problem-solving, resilience, and compassion.

Common Challenges

Throughout their childhood, children will face a series of challenges with their peers. As children experiment with language, they also experiment with the impact of their words. Silly “potty talk” might elicit a laugh from peers, but then a more serious curse word might cause upset or concern. This is also the time when children may lash out with more hurtful remarks about culture, religion, or skin color. Friendship struggles are also a regular part of the elementary years and can include feeling left out, lacking a “best friend,” or navigating shifting social groups. On top of all of this, some children struggle more with self-control, which can impact peer relationships. These challenges are not signs of failure. Rather, they are a normal part of learning how to relate to others.

Scenarios & Steps

Imagine your child comes home feeling excluded by a group of friends. After four or five times of seeing your child come home upset, you likely feel frustrated and protective. Should you email the teacher right away or help your child learn to self-advocate? Or perhaps your child is worried about a classmate who has tantrums, sometimes pushes, and disrupts the classroom. When you learn the child has ADHD and is receiving support, you may feel compassion, but you still don’t know how to help your child feel safe.

Both scenarios are different, yet these three easy steps provide a road map for a variety of social situations that may arise: start with empathy, pause before reacting, and then work on skill-building with your child.

Step One: Regulate Our Own Emotions

Children are highly attuned to our feelings. Before acting, it’s best to give ourselves time to process. We sometimes refer to this as the “24-hour rule.” This pause helps us avoid acting out of frustration and gives us space to see the bigger picture.

Step Two: Validate Our Child’s Feelings

Resist the urge to jump straight into fixing. Instead, focus on empathy and validation:

“I’m so sorry that happened.”
“That must have felt really unexpected.”
“How are you feeling right now?”

This kind of acknowledgement lets your child know their emotions are normal and safe to express. It’s important to keep ourselves neutral, though. Our children don’t need us to absorb their emotions. Rather, they need a safe space to feel and express themselves without our emotional reactions.

Step Three: Teach Problem-Solving Skills

Problem-solving is not natural at this age, and our children need us to model and support the process. Here is a simple four-step approach:

Brainstorm : This is when we can work with our child to come up with two to three strategies. This is most effective when we keep the skill we want them to learn in mind (e.g. advocacy, making friends, respecting personal space).

Model : We can show them what the strategy looks like. It helps to use humor, stuffed animals, or even role play to make it engaging.

Practice : We want to give our child time to rehearse, just as one would when practicing a sport. During this practice, we can offer encouragement and feedback.

Plan : With our child, we then choose one strategy to try for a few days. We can help our child track progress and create a “Plan B” if needed.

This approach not only teaches social skills but also builds flexibility, persistence, and confidence.

Applying the Steps

Let’s think about the previous scenarios. In the first example of your child feeling excluded, maybe you decide that advocacy is the key skill. Together, you and your child can brainstorm ways to talk to friends. Then, you can select one strategy, practice it through role-playing, and set a plan to implement it for three days. If it doesn’t work, agree to regroup and try Plan B.

In the second example of your child feeling worried about a classmate’s behavior, it can help to both acknowledge your child’s feelings while also modeling being curious about what might be going on for the classmate. You may identify that a key skill is setting boundaries or communicating with an adult about feeling uncomfortable with the behavior. Again, the process is similar: help your child pick a strategy, practice it, apply it, and then reconnect to see how it worked or if it’s worth trying another approach.

In both situations, it can also help to let your child’s classroom teacher know what is coming up at home. Keep in mind, though, that sometimes our children want to vent to parents and caregivers without their teachers knowing. It helps to communicate with your child, “This sounds like something your teacher should know about. Let’s write an email together.” Or if you want to give the teacher a quiet heads-up, be sure to communicate that your child doesn’t know you are reaching out. This is also a great opportunity to see if your child’s classroom teacher has any recommendations for how to guide your child to respond if the situation arises again.

Educators value timely communication. If challenges arise at school, please notify teachers promptly so they can assist children in resolving the issue in real time, rather than weeks later when the dynamic has already shifted. When schools and families work together, children reap the benefits!

Compassion and the Bigger Picture

It’s natural to feel protective when our children experience social challenges. However, when we approach these situations with compassion rather than blame, our children learn to do the same. The skills our children learn (such as problem-solving, advocacy, and empathy) extend far beyond the classroom. They prepare our children to thrive in diverse communities, workplaces, and future relationships.

Supporting children through peer challenges is not about fixing every problem for them. It’s about guiding them to develop the skills, confidence, and compassion they need to manage relationships independently. We invite you to visit us at our school in Chicago to see how we help children strengthen their social lives.

Nurturing Persistence and Choice in Children

Mon, 10 Nov 2025 11:02:01 GMT

“If persistence be the true foundation of the will, we nevertheless recognize decision as the act of the will par excellence.”

— Dr. Maria Montessori, Spontaneous Activity in Education

In this quote, Dr. Montessori reminds us that persistence is at the heart of character development. Today, we might call this steadiness and perseverance “grit.”

When children work through obstacles and remain committed to their chosen activity, they are not only building skills. They are forming the very foundation of their will.

Take this typical scene from a Montessori classroom: a four-year-old works with decimal system materials, building four-digit numbers using beads and cards, staying with the activity for an extended period of time, repeating it again and again with intensity and focus. The child gives as much attention to the careful set-up and clean-up as to the work itself.

It’s easy to imagine this young person years later as a hard-working, thoughtful, responsible individual. The four-year-old’s persistence in that moment shapes the future self, strengthening the ability to act with purpose in life.

Decision: The Act of the Will

If persistence is the foundation of the will, decision is the act of the will. And every decision arises from choice. For children, the ability to make choices is essential. Just as movement cannot develop when children are kept immobile, the will cannot develop if children are never given the chance to choose.

Our entire life is a continual exercise of decisions. This ability to choose builds independence. When children cannot make their own decisions (or when they fear making the wrong one), they become dependent on others.

This is why choice is such an important part of the Montessori environment. We strengthen children’s will by continually offering opportunities to decide. The choices don’t have to be large ones. They can be woven gently into the day:

Would you like to carry the tray or the mat?
You may choose any table.
Would you like to put the box or the pencil away first?

Each small decision helps strengthen the will.

Independence Through Choice

Every time children make a decision, they are practicing independence. They are learning to trust themselves instead of depending on the suggestions of others. They decide when to begin and when to finish, when to move and when to pause, when to be quiet and when to speak.

One of our jobs as adults is to ensure that we are giving children opportunities to practice using their will. Just as we don’t keep children motionless when they are learning how to crawl, cruise, walk, or run, we don’t want to impede children’s will when they are learning how to make choices and act upon their environment.

“And yet we do something of the same kind when, in order to educate the child’s ‘will,’ we first of all attempt to annihilate it, or, as we say, ‘break' it, and thus hamper the development of every factor of the will, substituting ourselves for the child in everything.”

— Dr. Maria Montessori, Spontaneous Activity in Education

This is a cautionary reminder for us as adults, as we can all too easily impose our will upon our children. This can happen in overt, overly controlling ways, or it can happen more subtly when adults do things for children rather than allowing them to practice making choices and experiencing consequences.

As Montessori parents and guides, our role is to protect this space for choice. By doing so, we are supporting children’s independence in the present, while also helping them build the persistence, decision-making, and strength of will that will guide them for life.

Curious to see how this works in a classroom? Schedule a tour here in Chicago!

Montessori Materials Explained: Multiplication & Division Bead Boards

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 11:00:40 GMT

For many children, learning the multiplication tables (and their flip-sided partners, division facts) can feel like a tedious rite of passage. However, in Montessori classrooms, we approach math facts in a concrete, hands-on manner that makes the process both engaging and memorable.

Key tools in this process are the multiplication and division bead boards.

The Multiplication Bead Board

This simple wooden board, with its rows of little indentations and bright red beads, allows children to see multiplication patterns and feel the quantities of a number a certain amount of times.

The top of the board features the numerals 1 through 10, which represent the multiplier. A small card slot shows the multiplicand (the number being multiplied). Children move a red marker disk across the top to indicate the multiplier and then carefully count out beads into the columns below.

For example, if the multiplicand is five:

With the marker over “1,” children place five beads, counting aloud: “Five, one time is five.”
When they move the marker to “2,” children place another five beads and count again: “Five, two times is ten.”
With each step, children build the product: bead by bead and column by column.

The process is slow, deliberate, and deeply satisfying. Rather than focusing on memorizing facts, children are able to internalize the structure of multiplication. Soon, they begin to notice patterns (for example, 5x3 makes a rectangle that looks like a 3x5 rectangle flipped on its side), skip-count naturally, and recall products with ease.

This material bridges the concrete and the abstract. Eventually, children record their work in multiplication booklets and then check against a control chart. Through this repetition, math facts transition from hands-on practice to memory, without the pressure or rote drilling that can often frustrate young learners.

Dr. Montessori herself remarked on how children loved this material. She noted that multiplication—something traditionally dreaded—became so enticing that children even asked to take the bead board home!

We often introduce the Multiplication Bead Board around ages five to six, when children are eager to explore patterns in numbers. It provides both a strong foundation for future abstract math, not to mention the joy of discovery that comes when math becomes something tangible and meaningful!

The Unit Division Board

When approached abstractly, division can be a tricky math concept for children to grasp. Unlike addition or multiplication, where patterns are more predictable, division often results in remainders, creating an unpredictability that can be frustrating when only approached abstractly.

In Montessori classrooms, we use the Unit Division Board to provide a more concrete, hands-on way to explore and internalize the process.

This material resembles the Multiplication Bead Board, but with one important difference: along the top of the board, there are indentations for small green peg-like figures (called “skittles”) that look like simplified versions of little people and that represent the divisor. The dividend (the total number to be divided) is shown with green beads, which children carefully distribute across the board. Along the left side are the numerals 1 to 9, showing the quotient.

For example, if the dividend is 18:

With nine skittles across the top, children share out the 18 beads equally. The answer in division is what one gets, so one of the “skittle people” gets two beads (showing that 18 ÷ 9 = 2).
If the divisor changes to six skittles, the same 18 beads can be shared among the three “skittle people,” showing that each one got three beads (18 ÷ 6 = 3).
If divided by four, children will discover that some beads can’t be shared equally. These extra beads—the remainders—become an important part of understanding how division really works.

Through repeated practice with different dividends and divisors, children begin to notice which numbers divide evenly, which don’t, and how multiplication and division are related.

Dr. Montessori emphasized that division is different from the other operations because it reveals limits, remainders, and exceptions. The Unit Division Board makes those discoveries visible. Children see, with their own eyes and hands, that not every number can be divided evenly, an important truth about how numbers behave. The Unit Division Board invites children into that discovery process.

What could feel discouraging instead becomes an exploration, as well as an opportunity to discover patterns, and build a relationship with math that is based on confidence and joy!

We invite you to visit our classrooms here in Chicago, IL, to see how children in Montessori build a positive relationship with math!

Montessori Materials Explained: The Fundamental Needs Charts

Mon, 26 May 2025 11:00:18 GMT

Exploring Human Connection: The Fundamental Needs Charts in Montessori

In the Montessori elementary classroom, we support children’s natural curiosity about what it means to be human. One of the tools we use for this exploration is the Fundamental Needs Charts, which illustrate the universal needs that connect all people, past and present.

Understanding Our Shared Humanity

The purpose of these charts is to help children recognize their own needs and see how human beings across time and cultures have worked to fulfill them. Through this, children begin to develop a deeper awareness of their place in history and the common threads that unite all people.

There are two charts that children use first as an overview and then as a tool for research.

The first chart provides a broad overview of fundamental needs, divided into material needs (food, shelter, clothing, defense, transportation) and spiritual needs (art, music, religion, communication).
The second chart focuses specifically on the human need for food, a concept that even the youngest elementary students can appreciate!

Unlike traditional text-heavy resources, these charts rely on visual representations, which makes them accessible to younger elementary children. The charts also provide a visual model of how to organize an investigation into ancient civilizations and cultures.

A Framework for Exploration

Elementary-aged children are naturally curious about how things work and why people live the way they do. The Fundamental Needs Charts provide a structured way to study history and culture, allowing children to ask meaningful questions:

How did different civilizations meet their needs for food and shelter?
How did people create art, music, and systems of belief?
What innovations, like the wheel, changed the way humans lived?
Are spiritual needs as essential as physical ones for survival?

These questions encourage children to think critically and compare cultures in a way that fosters both curiosity and respect for diversity.

From Concrete to Abstract Thinking

At first, children relate to physical needs like food and warmth because they have personally experienced hunger or cold. They also begin to grasp more abstract concepts, such as the role of art, music, and communication in human development.

We introduce the first chart through conversation:

What did you have for breakfast this morning?
How did you get to school? Did you wear a seat belt?
Why did you choose the clothes you have on today?
What do you plan to do this weekend?

We often write little slips with students’ answers. Then, we display the first chart and, together with the children, figure out how to put the different answers into the different categories. Children love this personal connection to the material, and the process lays the stage for how information can be organized thematically.

Encouraging Independent Research

The Fundamental Needs Charts do not present every possible human need–this is intentional. Instead, they provide a model that encourages children to create their own charts based on their research. This process deepens their understanding and allows them to make connections between cultures in a meaningful way.

Younger children often love making “needs” collages from magazine pictures or even charts of their own personal “fundamental needs” such as “What I Eat.” Sometimes, children may make booklets or write a story or report about a particular aspect of the chart, such as “How We Get to School” or foods that come from fish or foods that are flowers! Or they may make a chart with all the different ways human beings transport themselves, or about human houses. The possibilities are endless!

As they continue their studies, older children transition to The History Question Charts, which rely more on text and research. These allow for a more detailed examination of historical patterns, further reinforcing the idea that history is a story of human beings working to meet their needs.

Education for Peace

Dr. Maria Montessori believed that education should help children see themselves as part of a larger human family. By studying the universal needs that all people share, children develop a sense of human solidarity through space and time. They learn that while cultures may differ in their approaches, our fundamental needs unite us all.

This understanding fosters empathy, respect, and a sense of interconnectedness—essential components of education for peace. The Fundamental Needs of Human Beings Charts are more than just learning tools; they are a gateway to understanding human history, culture, and identity.

Visit our classrooms to see how our learning activities help young people become interconnected citizens!

Practical Life Has Purpose!

Mon, 19 May 2025 11:00:37 GMT

The Purposes of Practical Life in Montessori

In a Montessori classroom, practical life activities play a foundational role in supporting children’s development, independence, and connection to their environment. Because children are actively absorbing and adapting to the world around them, everything we offer in practical life serves a developmental need.

Supporting Independence

One of the primary goals of practical life is to nurture children’s functional independence—the ability to care for oneself and the environment and interact meaningfully within a community. The first plane of development (0 to 6 years) is marked by a strong drive for independence, with children eager to do things for themselves.

By the time a child enters the Children’s House (approximately ages 2.5 to 6), they have already made strides toward independence. However, they still require an environment that allows them to refine their skills. In the world, children generally encounter a number of obstacles to their independence:

Household processes (e.g., cleaning dishes in the dishwasher) may be hidden or too complex.
Tools are adult-sized and difficult for small hands to use.
Movements happen too quickly for children to absorb (e.g., tying a shoe).

The Montessori environment addresses these barriers by providing:

Child-sized tools for daily activities, such as preparing food and caring for the classroom.
A clear, ordered sequence of movements that children can observe and repeat.
The freedom to practice skills at their own pace, allowing them to move from passive observers to active participants.

Supporting the Sensitive Period for Movement

We also recognize that young children are in a critical period for refining their control and coordination. So practical life activities are designed to help children refine their movements in purposeful ways, directing children’s attention and energy toward focused, intentional actions. Walking on the line of an ellipse develops balance and control. Pouring water from a basin to a bucket refines precision. Carrying a tray teaches careful, measured movements.

One of the most challenging yet essential aspects of movement is control. It takes effort to stop pouring just before a cup overflows or use only a small drop of polish when shining an object. By engaging in these exercises, children strengthen their willpower and gradually master their own actions.

Supporting the Sensitive Period for Order

Children in the first plane of development have an innate need for external order, which is reflected in their surroundings and daily routines. Montessori environments support this in a variety of ways.

We ensure that activities have a logical sequence of steps so as children learn new concepts, they can also rely on the sequencing.

Materials are placed in a specific order on the shelves, moving left to right and top to bottom so children begin to internalize the same patterning we use for reading as they work through the easier and most concrete activities to the most challenging and abstract.

Montessori activities are color-coded. For the youngest children this means that all of the items for something like window washing will have the same color which helps children keep the set together. As children get older the color-coding is designed to help them grasp concepts like place value in math or parts of speech in language.

Once children internalize these structures, they gain confidence and independence, allowing them to complete tasks from start to finish without adult intervention.

Assisting with Cultural Adaptation

Practical life activities reflect real-world tasks that children observe in their daily lives. Children are naturally drawn to meaningful work—they want to help, imitate, and participate. For example, in Dr. Montessori’s early observations in San Lorenzo, she saw that children were fascinated by the gardener and the custodian, eagerly following and watching their work. Children see adults doing marvelous activities, and children want to learn the skills to participate! Through practical life activities, children engage in culturally relevant tasks that allow them to feel like valuable members of their community.

Supporting Orientation

Orientation is a fundamental human tendency—we all seek to understand our surroundings and how to function within them. Practical life exercises help children orient to the Montessori classroom by introducing essential routines. For example, we take the time to teach children things that might otherwise be taken for granted, such as:

How to carry a chair properly.
How to greet a friend.
How to roll and unroll a work rug.
How to ask for help.

By taking time to demonstrate these tasks, we show respect for the child and provide the knowledge they need to act confidently in their space.

Supporting the Development of Concentration

Practical life activities serve as a gateway to deep concentration. The freedom to choose and repeat exercises allows children to follow their intrinsic motivation and work toward self-perfection.

When children reach deep concentration, they experience:

Joy and a sense of fulfillment.
An increased connection to others.
A natural reduction in undesirable behaviors.

The ability to repeat an activity for as long as needed also supports children’s sensitive period for order and mastery. This is why practical life often serves as the first point of engagement for children in the Montessori classroom.

Supporting the Development of the Will

Practical life exercises help children develop willpower and self-control by bridging the gap between impulse and deliberate action.

At first, children act on instinct, but through repeated exercises, they learn to:

Act consciously and voluntarily.
Perfect their actions through self-correction.
Develop grace, courtesy, and social awareness.

Whether through learning how to clean up a spill or preparing snack to share with others, children learn to control their impulses and consider the needs of others.

Dr. Montessori beautifully summarized this transformation in The Discovery of the Child:

“The grace and dignity of their behavior and the ease of their movements are the corollaries to what they have gained through their own patient and laborious efforts. In a word, they are ‘self-controlled,’ and to the extent that they are thus controlled, they are free from the control of others.”

Practical life is far more than just pouring, scrubbing, and folding—it is the foundation for independence, concentration, order, and social development. These carefully designed activities help children orient to their world, refine their movements, and develop the willpower to act with purpose.

By embracing practical life, we give children the tools to engage meaningfully with their environment, take ownership of their learning, and ultimately, become confident, self-sufficient individuals. Contact us to schedule a tour so you can see how young children use practical life activities in powerful ways!

Mother and Newborn: A Deep Early Connection

Mon, 12 May 2025 11:00:10 GMT

The moments immediately after birth mark the beginning of a new yet deeply connected relationship between mother and infant. Though they are now separate beings, their bond remains intensely intertwined in a symbiotic relationship—one that nurtures, sustains, and supports both.

The word "symbiosis" originates from the Ancient Greek "σύν" (together) and "βίωσις" (living), beautifully encapsulating this critical early period where mother and baby live in close, mutual dependence. During this time, each provides something essential to the other, fostering survival, emotional security, and a foundation for lifelong attachment.

The Newborn’s Dependence on the Mother

Human infants enter the world in a state of immense dependency. Due to the evolutionary growth of the brain, babies are born before they reach full developmental maturity—an adaptation necessary to ensure a safe passage through the birth canal. This means that, unlike many other species, a human newborn requires continuous care and support in order to thrive. Infants’ nervous systems, movement, and even digestion are still developing outside the womb, making maternal presence essential for their adaptation to life beyond the confines of their prenatal environment.

The Mother’s Need for the Newborn

While the newborn’s need for the mother is evident, the mother’s need for her infant is just as profound. After birth, a mother’s body requires the baby’s presence to complete the physiological transition of childbirth.

Skin-to-skin contact and immediate breastfeeding trigger the release of oxytocin, which aids in contracting the uterus, expelling the placenta, and reducing the risk of postpartum hemorrhage. Additionally, prolactin, another key hormone stimulated through breastfeeding, deepens maternal attachment and fosters the nurturing instinct. As Ashley Montagu explains in her book, Touching :

“Psychologically, this intensification serves further to consolidate the symbiotic bond between herself and her child. In this bonding between mother and child, the first few minutes after birth are important. This is the beginning of that time when mother and baby are literally getting in touch with one another.”

This early connection is not just physical—it is deeply emotional. The mother’s body, heart, and mind undergo a transformation, developing an instinctive responsiveness to her baby’s needs. The mutual dependency between mother and child is what makes this period so unique and essential.

The Newborn’s Transition: Finding Security in the Familiar

Emerging into the external world is a dramatic shift for newborns. The womb was a place of warmth, movement, and constant sound—their mother’s heartbeat, breath, and voice. Birth catapults them into an unfamiliar space filled with new sensations, but certain elements can help bridge this transition. When held close, newborns find comfort in their mother’s scent, heartbeat, and voice—familiar reference points that reassure and provide continuity between the prenatal and postnatal worlds.

Meeting the Newborn’s Five Immediate Needs

Newborns enter life with five fundamental needs that ensure their smooth adaptation:

Direct contact with the mother
Adherence to biological rhythms
Temporal, physical, and social order
Space for unhindered vision and movement
Opportunities to explore with all the senses

These needs are met through three essential aspects of the mother-child relationship: holding , handling , and feeding .

Holding: The First Experience of Love

Holding, especially skin-to-skin contact, is crucial in the moments and weeks after birth. Being held provides the newborn with reassurance and an immediate sense of belonging. As Montagu describes in Touching :

“It is through body contact with the mother that the child makes its first contact with the world, through which he is enfolded in a new dimension of experience, the experience of the world of the other.”

Through touch, infants absorb the warmth, rhythm, and security of their mothers. This experience lays the foundation for trust, emotional stability, and future social bonds.

Handling: Loving, Intentional Care

Every interaction—bathing, changing, dressing—provides an opportunity for meaningful communication. Handling should be done with love and respect, fostering collaboration between caregiver and infant. When approached with attentiveness and predictability, these routine interactions create security and help the baby integrate into the social world with confidence.

Feeding: A Relationship Beyond Nutrition

Feeding, particularly breastfeeding, is not just about nourishment—it is about connection. The act of nursing stimulates hormones in both mother and baby, supporting digestive development, immune function, and emotional bonding. In fact, as the baby nurses, twenty different gastrointestinal hormones are released in the mother and infant, which stimulates the growth of the baby’s intestines and increases calorie absorption.

How feeding happens also matters. Even though newborns need guidance, we want to allow them to initiate suckling, as this reinforces their autonomy and natural rhythms. This early dynamic of mutual responsiveness creates a foundation of trust—ensuring children feel safe, heard, and secure in their ability to have their needs met.

The Lasting Impact of the Symbiotic Period

The symbiotic period, spanning approximately six to eight weeks, is foundational in shaping the infants’ perception of the world. Babies who experience warmth, responsiveness, and consistency in these early weeks develop an intrinsic trust in their environment. Likewise, through this deep connection, the mother gains confidence in her role and solidifies her bond with her child.

The profound mutual dependence of the symbiotic period is not just about survival—it is about building a relationship of love, trust, and security that serves as the blueprint for infants’ future interactions. By embracing this period with intention, awareness, and tenderness, both mother and baby emerge from it transformed—ready to take on the next stages of growth, hand in hand.

In Montessori, we are intentional about how we support each stage of development. Contact us to learn more!

A New Role: Adults in Montessori Adolescent Programs

Mon, 05 May 2025 11:00:12 GMT

Adolescents are in a new stage of development. So, how can the adults in their lives adapt? In Montessori adolescent programs, we open our hearts and minds to what is really happening for adolescents in their growth toward adulthood.

We have enormous respect for adolescents and the growth that happens during this stage of life. In many ways, the early adolescent years are parallel to the first years of life. Adolescents are newly emerging adults. They are newborns, and just like newborns, they are gaining a great deal of learning, brain integration, and social/emotional equilibrium.

Because what happens during adolescence impacts how our future adults will adapt and contribute to the broader society in adulthood, we are careful to model what it means to be an adult. We work to provide guidance and structure while respecting adolescents’ journey of self-construction. This stage of development is a period of reorganization, and we have the unique opportunity to positively influence and support this transformation.

The Montessori Adolescent Environment

Montessori adolescent programs vary in structure but typically include:

Plans of study and work
Different forms of social organization
Micro-economy programs
Work with nature and the land

Within these activities, adults serve multiple roles in different settings, such as in the kitchen, through work on the land, in business operations, and more. However, it is essential to remember that the Montessori learning environment belongs to our adolescents. As such, we must ensure students develop concentration and independence through meaningful activities in an attractive and stimulating environment.

Creating this prepared environment is a vital piece of the adult’s work! So we work to uphold the following characteristics.

Designed for self-construction : Adolescents need an environment where their personal development takes priority over just producing a finished product. Whether running a microeconomy business or working on the land, we remember that the product isn’t the primary concern; rather, it’s the adolescent’s development and their self-construction.

Developmentally appropriate : Activities and experiences should align with where adolescents are in their growth so as to ensure engagement and relevance.

Supportive of human tendencies : We want the environment to support human tendencies, like orientation, order, association, and exploration, in a way that evolves with students’ age and maturity. This means the space and the work will look different based on what our students experienced during their elementary years!

Includes materials/activities that provide appropriate challenges and opportunities for independence : Adolescents need access to tools, technology, creative outlets, and real-world applications of their learning, from garden tools to spreadsheets, from theatrical production materials to forms of publication.

Provides Beauty and Order : While adolescents may not always maintain order, a well-organized and aesthetically pleasing environment still impacts their development and identity formation. Although adolescents experience organization as a convenience, order is necessary to operate in a microcosm of society and when you need to get things done, like cooking a meal for a group.

Ensures Isolation of difficulty : We need to observe to know if our adolescents can use the tools at their disposal and also to plan for what lessons they need to be successful. Adolescents don’t want to be incompetent. They also don’t want to be ordered about by an adult. They need our side-by-side support.

Is Scaled in Size : We want workspaces should be adaptable to accommodate the diverse physical and developmental needs of adolescents. Scaling still matters at this level because adolescents can be very different from each other in their development.

Offers Limited materials : Too much choice can be overwhelming, yet the material needs to be obtainable when the task requires it. We intentionally ensure there isn’t one of everything for everyone because research shows adolescents are more productive when working with a partner.

Encourages Care (of self, others, and the environment) : This is a beautiful thread in all of Montessori. As our young people approach adulthood, we support them in learning how to take of themselves so that they then have the capacity to take care of people around them and then their community and their planet. Encouraging adolescents to care for themselves, their community, and the world around them fosters responsibility and empathy.

The Essential Role of the Adult

Adults are an essential part of the prepared environment, acting as facilitators of human development. Our primary responsibilities include:

Creating Conditions for Growth : Providing experiences that develop social responsibility, justice, and dignity.

Modeling Respect and Civility : Demonstrating respect for people, living things, community spaces, and social norms.

Fostering Engagement : Encouraging participation through invitations to work, short presentations, and meaningful activities.

Encouraging Self-Construction : Allowing adolescents to take ownership of their learning while the adult remains in the background, blending into the work alongside them.

The Power of Observation and Patience

A fundamental role of the adult is to create conditions that naturally engage adolescents. This requires stepping back from unnecessary praise and criticism and allowing students to recognize their own successes and errors. Learning comes from experience, and we see mistakes as valuable opportunities for growth.

Adults must also develop strong observation skills, practicing patience as adolescents navigate their developmental process. Our role is to guide, not dictate, allowing adolescents to take ownership of their education.

Ultimately, we must be aware of and sensitive to adolescents' developmental needs and characteristics. We respect their potential and understand adolescents’ need to function in a social context and their drive to become independent young adults.

Side-by-Side Work

One of the most effective tools for fostering independence is working alongside adolescents. This allows them to:

Observe real work in action
Understand their role within a community
Feel valued for their contributions

The process begins with adults modeling tasks, ensuring students understand the necessary skills, tools, safety rules, and quality expectations. Gradually, responsibility shifts to the adolescent, allowing them to take ownership while we observe from a distance. Older students can take on leadership roles, further developing their skills and sense of responsibility.

Preparation of the Adult

The role of adults in a Montessori adolescent program is built on teamwork, respect, and humility. Adults must collaborate effectively, ensuring that the program serves the community of adolescents rather than personal agendas. By fostering a respectful and engaging learning environment, adults empower adolescents to become independent, confident, and socially responsible individuals.

Facilitating adolescent development is a significant challenge requiring deep preparation. Montessori adults must be willing to evolve, accept change, and continually refine their approach based on observation and feedback. Montessori education is powerful for this age group because the adults are constantly exploring how to creatively meet adolescents’ needs, from designing the learning environment to preparing themselves to support these emerging young adults.

Curious to learn more about how Montessori supports stages of development in our young people? Schedule a tour!

Mathematical Foundations

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 11:00:13 GMT

Whether we embrace math or not, humans have a tendency to think in patterns, quantify, and make logical connections. Some even say we have a mathematical mind! Young children also have this innate ability and inclination, so in Montessori, we take advantage of this propensity for mathematical thinking and offer learning experiences that provide an in-depth understanding of math even at a young age.

Organized into six general groups, the mathematical exercises in the Children’s House span from a foundational understanding of the numbers one to ten, to working with very large numbers and place value within our decimal system, to internalizing number facts, and even early work with fractions!

Numbers 1 to 10

Although learning the numbers 1 to 10 sounds simple, it actually involves the integration of several distinct concepts. The beauty of the Montessori materials is that they isolate each separate concept so that children’s understanding grows in progressive steps. This first group of exercises in the Children’s House aims to teach the names, symbols, quantities, and sequence for the numbers 1 through 10.

The youngest children first use the number rods, which are color-coded with alternating red and blue sections to designate the quantities of one through ten. As children work with the number rods, they solidify the concept of quantity as a single entity while also practicing one-to-one correspondence.

The sandpaper numbers help children learn the symbolic representation of numbers. After children master the sandpaper numbers and can easily identify numerals, we help them connect the number cards with the corresponding number rods. Additional materials–like the spindle boxes, cards and counters, and the memory game–help children progress from understanding quantity as a single entity to grasping how quantity can be a set.

Throughout this progression, we offer experiential exercises to help children learn the concepts of addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division. At this stage, we don’t provide the vocabulary but rather give an impression of the concept of each operation.

The Decimal System

Once children have mastered the numbers 1 to 10 activities, they are ready to begin exercises with the golden beads. Because there are never more than nine in a given place value, and children already know the quantities and the symbols, they are ready to learn the hierarchy of units, tens, hundreds, and thousands.

As children set up the golden beads, the primary decimal system materials, they learn how to think through the process of each operation and the concepts of calculation. Are they putting quantities together or taking them apart and recounting the categories?

The decimal system work gives children knowledge of the mathematical processes and solidifies their understanding of the mechanics of the decimal system. We focus on helping children understand the process of each operation. We aren’t looking for the right answer. We want the child to understand the operations and what adding, multiplying, dividing, or subtracting means.

After children understand the operations with the golden beads, we offer other materials, such as the stamp game and dot game, to help them move away from a very concrete toward a more symbolic representation of the quantities. We offer word problems at the end of this series, which help verify whether children understand each operation's process.

Continuation of Counting

Through this group of exercises, children learn the name, symbol, and quantity of the numbers from 11 to 100, and consolidate linear counting up to 1,000. The work starts with the teen boards (11 through 19) and tens boards (20 to 100). We also introduce the colored bead stair, which gives a color-coded sensorial representation for quantities of one through ten, a pattern replicated throughout the Montessori math materials.

With the golden beads, children experience the difference between 100 and 1,000, by weight and geometrical representation. In continuation of counting, children lay out the bead chains and see the dramatic linear difference between 100 and 1,000. Children also use the bead chains to practice skip counting, which lays the foundation for further studies in multiplication.

We also make sure there is lots of counting in the classroom! Children can be taught to count by rote, but mental maturity helps them take the leap from rote counting to understanding quantities represented by numbers.

Exploration and Memorization of the Tables

Through a variety of materials–the addition strip board, addition snake game, subtraction strip board, subtraction snake game, multiplication bead board, bead bars, and unit division board–children have lots and lots of practice with the essential math facts. This concrete exploration establishes a visual understanding of what something like 5 x 6 looks like and helps children establish early neural pathways for memorizing these math facts.

After children use different forms of bead material to practice, they move into more abstract representations of quantity and eventually even use blank charts to test their memory.

All of the repetition in this exploration phase leads to memorization as children become aware of which combinations they know and which they don’t know. Eventually, after a lot of practice and repetition, children realize that it is faster to do the calculations mentally rather than with the materials.

As children reach the end of their primary years, they want to be more efficient. At precisely this point, they are ready to begin the last group of exercises, called the passage to abstraction.

Passage to Abstraction

In the exercises for passage to abstraction, children connect the skills and concepts from the previous strands of learning, and their knowledge base shifts from understanding the concepts experientially to understanding them logically.

With the small bead frame, children revisit the process of addition and subtraction. With the wooden hierarchy material, children get a sensorial and symbolic introduction to the quantities ten thousand, one hundred thousand, and one million. This material also prepares children for the large bead frame and experiencing the multiplication of large numbers with a single-digit multiplier. The racks and tubes material allows children to begin dividing with larger divisors and dividends. With all of this concrete experience working with larger quantities, children are well on their path to abstraction.

Fractions

The final material in the mathematical progression is fractions. In the Children’s House, we have already helped the youngest children explore fractions sensorially. They return to this material from a mathematical perspective to understand quantities smaller than one unit. In addition, children begin simple operations with the fraction material and start to explore the equivalence of fractions.

In the Children’s House, the progression we use for all of these exercises helps children deeply solidify their mathematical understanding. We first ensure children have strong concrete experiences, followed by more symbolic representations. After children associate the concrete and the abstract, we offer lots of activities for practice, repetition, and verification.

In the process, we support children’s growth in classification, comparison, and reasoning. We invite you to come see children’s mathematical minds in action. Schedule a tour today!

Who Owns the Problem?

Mon, 17 Feb 2025 11:00:04 GMT

Most of us have had the experience of a child walking into the room and proclaiming, with exasperation and desperation, “I’m bored!” Without even thinking, we begin to offer suggestions.

Despite our best intentions, this situation tends to not end well. Our brilliant ideas are often quickly refuted. We feel frustrated. Our children haven’t engaged. And we’ve missed an opportunity to help our children take responsibility.

What Does it Mean to “Own the Problem”?

It helps to think proactively about how to respond when our children face problems, choices, or situations. These aren’t necessarily the big issues, but rather daily moments that can help our children learn important coping skills that will be crucial in their lives.

At its core, figuring out who owns the problem is about determining whether we or our children are the ones who are primarily responsible for addressing an issue. For example, when our children forget to bring something to school (a coat, gym shoes, snack, etc.), it’s their problem to own and solve because they are directly impacted. Plus, they are also capable of problem-solving (e.g. borrowing a coat, talking to their teacher, asking if there is any food they can have for a snack).

Owning the problem helps children take more responsibility and learn from their mistakes. Whereas, if we rush to their rescue and bring anything that was left at home, our children learn that remembering to bring essential items isn’t really important because we take care of covering for them.

The Challenges

However, watching our children struggle can be heart-wrenching. We don’t like to see our children upset, in pain, or even frustrated. Often, without even thinking, we jump in and try to protect our children from whatever problem, conflict, or challenge they are experiencing.

In addition to this urge to rescue, we may also experience time constraints, diminishing patience, worry about how others will perceive the situation, doubts about our children’s capability, and even pushback from our children.

It may seem faster to tie our children’s shoes or clean their messy room than to wait for them to do it themselves. We may worry that our children won’t meet expectations with a school project or that teachers, other parents, or extended family members will judge the results if we don’t help. Or maybe we aren’t sure that our children will make the “right” decision or if our children are mature or skilled enough to handle a situation. We may even feel guilty about allowing our children to face the natural consequences of their actions, even though it’s a necessary part of learning.

The Value

All problems have owners. Being thoughtful about who owns the problem helps create a clear boundary between guiding our children and taking over their challenges, which is crucial for raising independent, confident, and capable individuals. If we take the time to think ahead about specific (and even recurring) situations, we can be prepared to empower our children to take ownership of the challenges they face, rather than automatically intervening.

It’s also important to remember that if we regularly take ownership of our children’s problems, we are inadvertently teaching our children that they are not capable. The result? Our children grow more needy and dependent on (and sometimes even more demanding of) adults.

If our children own the problem, we can let them handle the problem and provide support as necessary. This is a growth opportunity for us and our children!

Steps to Take

The next time our children express frustration or emotion in response to a problem they own, we can try a simple, three-step response.

Tell them what we see

When our children approach us, consider using detective skills to determine what emotion is at play. “It looks like you don’t know what to do right now,” or “It looks like you are disappointed,” or “It looks like you are feeling sad.” This simple first step provides acknowledgment and helps children accept that their feelings are normal and acceptable. For younger children, this also helps them learn to identify different emotions.

In addition to validating our children’s feelings, active listening shows empathy and helps us avoid jumping to solutions. For example, if the upset is about an interaction with a friend, we can try saying something like, “That sounds really frustrating. Tell me more about what happened."

Ask them what they can do

Next, we can act as a coach rather than trying to provide solutions. This requires listening closely to determine the root cause of their problem and helping them come up with a solution (without doing it for them).

For example, if facing the “I’m bored” statement, we can ask questions, “What do you think you could do on your own so that you would feel busy?” Even if they respond by saying, “I don’t know,” we can continue to focus on their ability to think through possibilities. Sometimes, even just replying with something like, “make believe you know,” grants them permission to use their imagination.

Additional types of questions to have mentally prepared can include:

“What do you think you could do to fix this?”

“How do you think _____ might react if you explain?”

“What’s the first step you could take?”

Offer to help if appropriate

Once our children have come up with a solution to their problem, we can offer to help without taking over and implementing the solution for them.

Sometimes our children might need support with generating ideas. It’s okay to brainstorm together, which is different than trying to come up with solutions for them. If we do offer brainstorming support, it’s important to let our children choose the best course of action. For example, if the problem revolves around forgetting to bring something to school, we can help with some scaffolding, “Let’s think of ways you have remembered to bring your instrument for band. What’s one technique you’ve used before that worked well?”

We can also offer support by providing access to tools or resources. For example, if the struggle involves organization, we can offer to provide a calendar or checklist and teach our children how to use this tool rather than organizing their assignments or chores for them. Role-playing can also sometimes help children practice the solution they’ve identified.

Ultimately, we want to set clear exceptions by letting our children know what is expected and giving them the responsibility to follow through. Asking what their plan is is a great way to shift the focus to their ability to solve the problem. The best part is that the more often we allow our children to solve their own problems, the more capable they become.

Are you curious to learn more about supporting children’s emerging sense of responsibility? Come visit our school!

An Explosion in Language Development

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 11:00:04 GMT

Almost 120 years ago, when Dr. Maria Montessori created the first Children’s Houses in the slums of Rome, she saw a curious phenomenon. Young children, who not that long before had been considered street urchins, developed a sense of pride in their work and soon were eager to read and write. In fact, Dr. Montessori tells a story about how the children and their parents begged her to teach them writing and reading, despite the fact that, at the time society didn’t think that children under six were capable of this type of learning.

Then Dr. Montessori did what she did so well: she observed the children, she identified what skills they needed, and she provided opportunities for the children to develop. The result? Dr. Montessori saw what she described as an “explosion” into writing and reading.

In Montessori, we support children’s progression (and “explosion”!) in three aspects of language development: spoken language, written expression, and interpretive reading.

Spoken Language

Because spoken language is the foundation for all work in the language area, we offer rich, full, and beautiful language for young children through a variety of activities to cultivate conversation skills. Our enrichment of vocabulary exercises focus directly on expanding children’s receptive vocabularies and cultivating children’s experience and intelligence. As we engage children in language games, we also help increase their listening skills as well as their comprehension. As part of spoken language development, we also take the time to listen to children’s own spontaneous efforts of expression, so that they gain confidence in speaking and feel that their thoughts have meaning.

Written Expression

The act of writing consists of two separate elements: composing and recording. Composing is the mental work–thinking about what to say. Recording is the physical aspect of writing. In the Children’s House, we prepare these two elements separately by offering exercises to prepare the hand for recording and exercises to prepare the mind for composing. Writing is having a known thought that goes from sound to symbol, a process that is much easier than the process of reading.

Because the development of the hand takes longer than the development of the mind, we use a material called the movable alphabet as a way for children to compose words before their hands are ready to write. The movable alphabet is a box containing the letters of the alphabet, essentially the building blocks of all the sounds in our language.

Interpretive Reading

In Montessori environments, unlike many traditional settings, reading is introduced after writing because the process of reading is cognitively more difficult. Writing is essentially an expression of thought. When we write something, we know what we are writing. When we read something, we don’t know what the author was communicating so we have to take the symbols, match sounds to them, blend them together, and then attach meaning to them. This is much harder to do.

While the hand needs to be prepared for writing, the eye must be prepared for reading. This includes being able to follow a left to right, top to bottom progression across the page. In addition, the eye must recognize that the symbols in our language are lines creating a shape. So we have lots of activities with the geometry cabinet, as well as other sensorial materials, to prepare children for this visual discrimination. We also use the sandpaper letters to introduce the phonemes of language through three senses: tactile, visual, and auditory. Through games with the sandpaper letters, children get to practice the trace of the letter through gross motor movement of the whole arm and hand, see the shape, and associate the letter sound with its shape and their own movement.

Once children progress from reading words (mostly nouns), to reading phrases and finally sentences and paragraphs, we offer activities to highlight how different words have different functions. These exercises also highlight the syntax or order of words (e.g. adjectives tend to come before the noun they are describing). Another set of exercises, called reading analysis, highlights the role or the order of parts of a sentence. In the process of understanding the components of our language, children are better able to interpret what the author is writing.

The Pattern of Human Language Development

The progression that young children go through – spoken language to written expression to interpretive reading – follows the pattern of early human language development. Early humans began with spoken language, then advanced into forms of writing (think of the first cave paintings and picture writing), and later moved into reading as a way to interpret the thoughts of others. How amazing that our young children do the same in a matter of years from birth to age six!

One of the joys of the Montessori learning environment is how language learning is woven into all aspects of the children’s experience. When we present dusting, for example, we model a left to right, top to bottom pattern, which prepares the eye for tracking words on a page. When children use sensorial touch tablets and the rough and smooth boards, they develop lightness of touch and a relaxed hand necessary for writing. Every time children grasp a knob of the knobbed cylinders, they prepare their hand for holding a writing instrument.

Through the sound game, children become aware of the fact that words are made of sounds and they begin to identify all of the sounds in a word and place them in order. Through the sandpaper letters and sandpaper phonograms, children associate the sounds of our language with their symbols. This is exciting work for the children because not only can they see the isolated symbols, but they can touch them, too! Through the moveable alphabet, children are able to write their thoughts even before their hand is ready to control a pencil.

The genius of the Montessori approach is that it breaks down individual skills and abilities so that children can practice them in isolation. So by the time children have mastered these individual skills, they seem to spontaneously know how to write or know how to read.

Once this explosion into writing and reading has occurred, then children are excited to refine their writing and access worlds of knowledge through reading. A new journey of discovery and learning begins.

We invite you to visit the school to learn more about the “explosion” in language development and the joyous journey that unfolds!

The Three R’s of Recovery: A Positive Discipline Approach to Mistakes

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 11:00:06 GMT

Do you ever feel annoyed by throw-away apologies? So often, our children pick up the habit of tossing out “I’m sorry” like a used tissue. Completely overused, the expression begins to feel devoid of worth. They speak the words, but it seems like they don’t actually feel a sense of remorse or regret, much less a desire to make amends.

In Montessori, we don’t insist that children apologize, especially right at the tail end of a heated moment. For goodness' sake, think about when we, as adults, are tired or hungry or stressed and make a snarky comment. We’re not usually feeling particularly sorry – more like ticked off and cranky! Later, after we’ve had time to take some deep breaths, or perhaps tend to low blood sugar, we often feel a deep sense of regret and desire to make things right.

Because our children tend to replicate what they see in us, it helps if we decide to first make sure we aren’t just using “sorry” as an easy way out. To really model a different approach, it helps to use the framework of the “Three R’s of Recovery” from Positive Discipline.

The Three R’s of Recovery

When we make mistakes, we have an opportunity to make amends and even learn from the experience. In Jane Nelson’s Positive Discipline work, the “Three R’s of Recovery” offer steps to follow after calming down. The first R stands for recognize , and with this, we verbally acknowledge our mistake and take responsibility for our actions. To do this effectively, we must also be sure to keep any hint of blame out of the picture.

So if we’ve snapped at our children and later cooled off, we might say something like, “I feel really bad about when I snapped at you. You don’t deserve to be treated that way.” Notice that these statements don’t weave in any know-it-all finger-wagging about things they did to push our buttons. Rather than blaming, we take responsibility for the choice we made in the moment.

Next, we can reconcile by apologizing. This can be as simple as just saying, “I’m sorry.” When we’ve really taken responsibility, the reconciliation comes from a genuine and heartfelt place. And children are so forgiving and understanding. Perhaps we could learn a few things from them in this regard!

Finally, the third R is for when we resolve the problem. At this point, we work together to find a respectful solution. After taking responsibility and reconciling, everyone often feels open and willing to collaborate. If the time isn’t right for a brainstorming session, it’s important to set and stick to a later date for problem-solving. When allowed to share ideas in a safe, respectful forum, children often can help come up with incredibly creative solutions.

The Benefits

When we try putting the “Three R’s of Recovery” into practice, our children are often able to be more mindful after their less-than-ideal moments. Our mistakes become less about what we did wrong and more about the kind of people we want to be.

Because mistakes are an opportunity to learn and grow, our relationships with our children often grow stronger as we practice recognizing, reconciling, and resolving together. Mutual respect increases, and trust in each other becomes stronger.

The Positive Discipline approach dovetails nicely with Montessori principles and practice. We’d love for you to visit our school to learn more. Contact us to schedule a tour!

Equity Q&A with Britt Hawthorne

Mon, 12 Jun 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Britt Hawthorne is an antiracist educator, teacher, speaker, visionary, and advocate. She is committed to raising a generation of antiracist children by centering families of the global majority and fostering equitable learning environments for students and children of all ages and backgrounds. We recently had a little Q&A with Britt and we are delighted to share this with you!

Britt is the author of the highly-anticipated, New York Times Bestseller, Raising Antiracist Children: A Practical Parenting Guide . The book is an interactive guide for strategically incorporating the tools of inclusivity into everyday life and parenting.

Your book, Raising Antiracist Children, is subtitled: A Practical Parenting Guide. Practicality seems so important for busy families. With this in mind, what do you see as important priorities? Where do you suggest families begin?

Begin by fostering brave spaces at home. Brave spaces are intentional spaces focused on coming together with a new understanding. For example, I grew up with narrow racial and cultural representation. Many books in my childhood home featured white or Black main characters. Hardly ever did the books in my home represent Latino, Native Hawaiian, Native American, South Asian, or Hispanic characters.

I know our commitments live in our actions. So, I shared my concern with my partner and we discussed how this lack of representation caused misconceptions to persist. We could then prepare a home environment that shows we value diversity. Because we’re fostering brave spaces, together we can reflect, discuss, and choose what we want for our children.

What are some priorities or practices that you uphold in your family?

I lay out five parenting principles in Raising Antiracist Children: A Practical Parenting Guide . One of the parenting principles is that we believe children have the desire to learn. Learning means we welcome questions, mistakes, and new understandings.

Therefore, we create curious moments with our children by asking questions.

“I wonder if there are more white people in the world or people of color?”
“Have you ever wondered why Europe and Asia are considered separate continents?”
“Do you hear people talking about race? What do you hear?”

We also respond with curiosity rather than fear, silence, or frustration. Here are some examples:

“Oh, you’re noticing that you have larger eyes than she does. I wonder if she has eyes like her mom, like you?”
“That’s a curious question. I wonder where we could find the answer together. I bet a book from the library could tell us more about it.”
“Thanks for asking me. I don’t know the answer, so I’m just as curious as you. I can do some digging to figure it out. I’ll let you know what I find over dinner.”

When you think about this ongoing work, how do you see it connected to Montessori philosophy and/or practice?

The Montessori philosophy has everything it needs to serve every child, regardless of background. Amelia A. Sherwood said it best, “Montessori education has the ability to liberate the child!” As Montessorians, we deliberately practice this cycle of spiritual preparation: take care of ourselves, take care of others, and take care of the environment. Those three commitments are the same commitments antiracists and liberation workers use to guide their work.

And it’s not just about wondering how we can care for ourselves, others, and the environment. It’s creating the time and offering the resources to be culturally affirming, intentional, and purposeful in our work. That’s why you can go into almost any Montessori environment and witness practical life, grace and courtesy, and community care happening. While we might use different words, we describe very similar practices.

What are some resources you recommend for families and educators?

For parents and grownups, I recommend Raising Antiracist Children: A Practical Parenting Guide by Britt Hawthorne (me!) with Natasha Yglesias.

Here is a list of books for learners:

Bodies Are Cool by Tyler Feder
My Face Book by Star Bright Books
Together: A First Conversation about Love by Megan Madison, Jessica Ralli, et al.
You Hold Me Up by Monique Gray Smith
The Antiracist Kid: A Book about Identity, Justice, and Activism by Tiffany Jewell
Eyes That Kiss in the Corners by Joanna Ho
Flying Lessons & Other Stories edited by Ellen Oh
The Assignment by Liza Wiemer

We hope you’ve gathered some helpful insight from Britt about how we can collaborate to move the idea of educational equity from goal to reality. Britt partners with action-orientated educators to create classroom environments that are inclusive and equitable for all learners. And most importantly, she’s rooting for you!

To learn more please visit britthawthorne.com .

The First Six Years: Conquests of Independence

Mon, 05 Jun 2023 11:00:02 GMT

As caregivers and parents, we have a bit of a bittersweet role. While we want to keep our children close, we ultimately need to support their path toward independence.

We expect dependence at the beginning. Yet our newborns take their very first step toward independence at birth. Once born, they have to breathe on their own. And rather than get nutrition through the umbilical cord, they use effort to begin latching on or suckling.

Throughout their first six years of life, our children achieve so many milestones of independence. Let’s take a look at some of these conquests of independence. You can use this framework as a guide and reminder of how we can support our children as they grow and develop.

Birth to One Year

The first conquest of independence is birth which comes with the cutting of the umbilical cord. At this point, infants must breathe and gain nutrition on their own. Even our expression “It’s time to cut the cord” indicates the shift to increased independence.
Movement is another acquisition of independence in the first year as children begin to use their arms and legs, sit up and crawl, and move from one place to another. With this increased locomotion children no longer need to be held or carried.
Our children also begin to feed themselves. Even in the beginning when babies are nursing, we want them to indicate hunger. The weaning process and shift to using the weaning table supports this path to independence. As our children begin to eat and drink on their own, it is important to have foods and tools they can use independently (e.g. a shot glass for water, finger foods, etc.) rather than having an adult putting a utensil or bottle in their mouth.
Children can also start to practice basic use of utensils. Having utensils that are child-sized and functional is key to independent use.
In addition, our children need the opportunity to develop the ability to be by themselves. To become independent, they need to practice separating from their caregiver(s). Healthy separation depends upon healthy attachment, and our children need the chance to have some time without adult engagement.
Around the end of the first year, children begin to develop language to communicate their needs. Prior to this time, they are able to use other methods to communicate: crying, cooing, smiling, etc. This communication is the beginning of social skills and children’s ability to relate socially to others.

One to Three Years

During this time children can walk confidently and begin to run and climb. Once children can walk, they can begin the process of becoming independent in toileting.
They become more independent with the use of their hands, which become tools for exploration. Because of this, children no longer need to rely on others to hold and carry items.
Language use allows children to begin to express themselves independently.
Children can start to become independent in dressing themselves.
They begin to be able to use simple tools (crayons, sticks, cups, utensils, etc.).
They become more capable of caring for their own personal hygiene (brushing their teeth, washing their face, brushing their hair, etc.).
Children become more proficient with and capable of carrying their own items.
They have the capacity to clean up after themselves (putting away belongings, folding clothing, wiping spills, sweeping crumbs, etc.).

As children get older, they need opportunities to develop their will. Thus, during this stage of independence, it is really important that children can make choices. Making a choice means they are acting for themselves and exercising their will.

From Three to Four and a Half

If it hasn't happened already, children experience separation from the family (e.g. going to school). To be able to separate from one’s family is a new skill of independence. For children who haven’t been able to be by themselves, this is a harder process. During this time, children realize they can survive and trust others, which is a significant step in independence.
Children develop a wider range of social skills.
Children’s motor and visual skills become more developed and refined.
They are able to engage in more games (e.g. catching and throwing a ball).
They have finer manual dexterity (using individual fingers) as well as refined fine motor skills (when all fingers are working in unison).
Children begin to develop the ability to use language to express their emotions. They can learn a multitude of words to be able to express feelings.
They can use utensils and tools to prepare their own food (which ideally happens prior to age three). Research shows that children involved in preparing their own food are more likely to try diverse foods.
Children learn to master fasteners (zippers, buckles, bows, etc.) and thus the self-care involved with dressing and undressing.
They can contribute to their community and care not only for themselves but also for the environment through simple responsibilities like setting the table, folding towels, etc.
They are more independent in caring for their own hygiene needs.
Because their vocabulary is expanding, children can use words to express emotions, as well as to better express their thoughts.

Four and a Half to Six

Children have more social independence and can not only do for themselves but can also use acquired skills to help others.
They become more independent in their social skills so they can internalize and apply the social norms of their community (e.g. pushing in chairs, greeting visitors, communicating that they need space, etc.).
Children become proficient in dressing themselves and can help younger peers with the dressing and undressing process (e.g. getting dressed for going outdoors).
They acquire the capacity to have empathy and compassion.
They have a basic understanding of quantities and how they are represented, instead of just mimicking or rote counting.
Children begin to recognize and use the symbols of our language (e.g. expressing themselves through writing or interpreting the thoughts of others through reading).

These conquests of independence are ultimately about becoming functionally independent. Young children are in a process of mastering different aspects of their lives and they need us, their caregivers, to support them in this process.

Our children are so capable and they benefit when allowed to move toward increasing independence. If you’d like to see how our Montessori environments set children up for success, please schedule a tour !

montessori-school-of-englewood

When We're the Ones Who Lost It: A Guide for Adults

So what do we do?

Be gentle on yourself first.

Model making amends.

Think about lagging skills.

Get curious instead of reactive.

Consider what unmet needs might be at play.

Reflect on our own patterns.

Unifying Words and Their Meanings: The Quiet Genius of Montessori Vocabulary Lessons

Why Vocabulary Needs Its Own Method

The Simplicity of the Three Stages

What Happens When a Child Gets It Wrong

After the Lesson: When Words Come Alive

Trying It at Home

Our Montessori Bookshelf: Water Connects Us

For the Youngest

Water Cycle: For Younger Elementary

Watersheds

How Montessori Makes Long Division Make Sense

Two Ways to Divide: Sharing and Grouping

What Are Racks and Tubes?

How Long Division Becomes Concrete

From Material to Abstraction

Why This Matters

The Power of Presence: How Adults Shape Learning in the Early Years

From Birth to About 14 to 16 Months

Dynamic Toddlers

Our Inner Work

Language Revealed: The Montessori Journey to Understanding Pronouns

Beginning With Experience, Not Explanation

From Movement to Sentences

Montessori Lore: The Pronoun’s Story

Why Pronouns Come Later

Deepening Understanding Through Play and Exploration

Subtleties Come Later

Language Revealed, Not Taught

Sleep as a Skill: A Montessori Reflection for Baby Sleep Day

Language Shapes Our Intentions

Why Sleep Matters So Much

How Sleep Works

A Montessori Framework for Healthy Sleep

Why Independent Sleep Is an Act of Care

A Closing Thought for Baby Sleep Day

The Most Important Montessori Practice You Rarely Hear About

Relationship Comes First

Every Child, as Often as They Need

What Happens in a Child-Guide Conference?

Learning to Define “Finished”

Trusting Children’s Self-Assessment

The Whole Child Matters

When Relationships Need Repair

What Children Are Really Learning

From Sounds to Script: How Montessori Children Learn to Write

﻿ The Materials That Support the Journey

Step One: Writing Words with Chalk

Step Two: Introducing the Baseline

Step Three: Baseline and Waistline

What This Work Supports

The Quiet Landing: Why Children Need Time After School

﻿ Why “How Was Your Day?” Can Feel Like Too Much

Connection Before Conversation

When Children Are Ready to Talk

Listening for Timing, Not Just Content

Understanding Equivalence: A Montessori Approach to Math Insight

What Is Equivalence?

A Peek Inside the Montessori Lesson

Exploration: The Heart of the Work

Introducing Mathematical Symbols

Why This Work Matters

What To Do With Disrespect

When Children Say, “I Hate You”

When Children Talk Back

Choosing Connection Over Control

Creating a Prepared Environment (at Home, too!)

The Adult: The Protector and Connector

At Home Examples

Reflection

The Community of Children: Learning Through Living Together

At Home Examples

The Materials That Support the Journey

Why “How Was Your Day?” Can Feel Like Too Much